How do break up with a boyfriend whol loves yoy?
Well, ain’t that a pickle? Breakin’ up with someone, even when you gotta, it’s like pullin’ a tooth. Hurts like heck and nobody wants to do it. Especially when the fella’s head over heels for ya. But sometimes, ya just gotta do what ya gotta do, right?
First off, you gotta make sure, really sure, that this is what you want. This ain’t somethin’ you do on a whim, like changin’ your mind about what to cook for supper. This is serious stuff. You gotta ask yourself, “Do I really wanna bail outta this here relationship?” Is it somethin’ that can be fixed, or is it just plain broke? If it’s broke, and you’ve tried fixin’ it, then okay, maybe it’s time to move on. But don’t be hasty, child.
Now, don’t go blamin’ yourself for everything. Sometimes, things just don’t work out. It ain’t always your fault. He might be a good fella, a real sweetheart, but that don’t mean he’s the right fella for you. And you ain’t doin’ him no favors by stayin’ if you ain’t happy. You both deserve to be happy, even if it ain’t with each other. It ain’t nobody’s fault that the hearts sometimes go different ways. Like that old saying, ‘you can’t make everyone happy, you are not pizza’ or something like that.
- Be Straight Up: Don’t beat around the bush. Just tell him straight. Like rippin’ off a band-aid. Quick and clean. Don’t go makin’ up excuses or tellin’ stories. Just say what you gotta say.
- Be Clear: Make sure he understands why you’re doin’ this. Don’t leave him guessin’. Tell him how you feel, but don’t be mean about it. Nobody likes bein’ treated mean.
- Be Honest: Truth hurts, but lies hurt more. Tell him the truth, even if it’s hard. He deserves to know why you’re breakin’ up with him.
- Be Kind: Just ’cause you’re breakin’ up with him don’t mean you gotta be a jerk. Be gentle. He’s hurtin’, remember that. Treat him how you’d wanna be treated if someone was breakin’ up with you.
- Keep it Short: Don’t drag it out. Say what you need to say and then go. The longer you stay, the harder it’ll be. And don’t go arguin’ or gettin’ into a big ol’ fight. That ain’t gonna help nothin’. Just say your piece and leave it at that.
And don’t go tellin’ him, “It’s not you, it’s me.” That’s just a bunch of hogwash. Tell him why you’re breakin’ up with him. Be honest about your needs and your concerns. Maybe you want different things outta life. Maybe you ain’t happy anymore. Whatever the reason is, tell him straight.
Like, if you want different things, just say it. If you want to travel the world and he wants to stay home and watch TV, well, that ain’t gonna work, is it? Or if you want kids and he don’t, that’s a big one. You can’t force these things.
And listen, don’t feel guilty. You ain’t responsible for his happiness. He’s gotta find his own way. And just ’cause he loves you don’t mean you gotta love him back. Love ain’t somethin’ you can force. It either is or it ain’t. If it ain’t there, it ain’t there. Don’t stay with him out of pity or some nonsense like that. That ain’t fair to either of you. It’s like tryin’ to put a square peg in a round hole, ain’t gonna fit no matter how hard you push.
After you’ve told him, leave him be. Let him have his space to deal with it. He’s gonna need time to figure things out. And don’t go runnin’ back to him every time he calls. That’ll just make it harder on both of you. Let him lean on his friends and family. They’ll help him through it. You ain’t the only person in the world who can help him. And remember this, no spell or magic can make someone love you or stay with you, it’s gotta come from the heart, naturally.
Breakin’ up is never easy. It’s gonna hurt. But sometimes, it’s the best thing you can do. For both of you. So, be brave, be kind, and be honest. And remember, you deserve to be happy, same as him.
