Alright, let’s talk about this “shoulda cheated” thing. You know, sometimes things just ain’t right in a relationship. It ain’t always black and white, like folks wanna pretend.
Feeling unsatisfied, that’s a big one. Like, you’re layin’ there at night, and somethin’ just feels…missin’. You ain’t gettin’ what you need, you know? And it ain’t just about the bedroom stuff, though that’s part of it. It’s about feeling… lonely, even when they’re right there beside ya. Maybe they don’t even look at ya no more, or they just grunt and go to sleep. Lack of love, they call it. Sounds fancy, but it just means they ain’t treatin’ ya right.
- Maybe they don’t listen no more.
- Maybe they always puttin’ you down.
- Maybe they just ain’t… there. Not really.
And then there’s the wanting more. Some folks got a fire in ‘em, a need that ain’t gettin’ met. High sexual desire, they call it. Well, I call it feelin’ alive and wantin’ someone to share that with. If your partner ain’t interested, or can’t keep up, well… that’s a problem, ain’t it?
Now, I ain’t sayin’ it’s always the other person’s fault. Sometimes folks just ain’t compatible. Like tryin’ to fit a square peg in a round hole, you know? You can push and shove all you want, but it ain’t gonna work. And sometimes, people change. That sweet young fella you married? He might turn into a grumpy old fart who’d rather watch TV than look at ya. Happens all the time. Life ain’t a fairy tale, that’s for sure.
Some folks, they got that cheatin’ personality. I seen it myself. Always lookin’ for somethin’ better, even when they got a good thing goin’. Poor self-control, that’s what they say. Like they can’t help themselves. Selfishness, too. Only thinkin’ about what they want, not carin’ who they hurt. And anger, oh boy, I seen plenty of that. They get mad about somethin’ small, then go off and do somethin’ stupid. Or maybe they’re just plain bored. Needin’ some excitement, even if it means breakin’ someone’s heart.
Now, how do you know if it’s happenin’? Well, sometimes it ain’t easy. People lie, you know. They good at it, some of ‘em. But there’s signs, if you pay attention.
That phone, that’s a big one these days. Always glued to it, sneakin’ off to take calls, gettin’ all defensive if you even look at it funny. Phone behavior, like they say. It’s like they hidin’ somethin’, right? If they jumpin’ every time that phone buzzes and they won’t let ya see who it is, well, that ain’t right. And if they suddenly start deletin’ all their texts and calls, that’s a red flag bigger than a barn.
And then there’s the bein’ too nice. Yeah, you heard that right. Suddenly they all lovey-dovey, bringin’ you flowers, tellin’ you how beautiful you are. Too much affection, they call it. Tryin’ to cover somethin’ up, that’s what I think. Guilty conscience, maybe. Like they tryin’ to buy you off so ya won’t go snoopin’.
But here’s the thing, you gotta trust your gut. You know your partner better than anyone. If somethin’ feels off, it probably is. Don’t let ‘em gaslight ya, make ya think you’re crazy. And don’t ignore those little whispers in your head. They’re there for a reason. Suspicion, it’s a powerful thing.
Now, I ain’t tellin’ nobody to cheat. That’s a decision you gotta make for yourself. But I am sayin’ that sometimes, relationships ain’t what they seem. And sometimes, people do things for a reason. You gotta figure out what’s right for you, and what you can live with. It ain’t easy, that’s for sure. But life ain’t easy. You just gotta do the best you can, and try not to hurt nobody along the way. But most important thing is you look after yourself.
So, if you’re sittin’ there wonderin’ “shoulda cheated”, well, maybe you shoulda. Or maybe you shouldn’t have. Only you know the truth of what’s goin’ on in your heart and in your home. Just remember to be honest with yourself, and don’t let nobody treat you like dirt. You deserve better than that.
And if you thinkin’ about cheatin’ yourself, well… ask yourself why. Is it somethin’ missin’ in your relationship? Or is it somethin’ missin’ in you? That’s a hard question to answer, but it’s one you gotta face. Cause at the end of the day, you’re the one who gotta live with your choices.
