Okay, let’s talk about this whole thing. It sounds kinda raw, the way it’s phrased, but I get where the thought might bubble up from, especially when you’re younger or just haven’t really stopped to think, or maybe learn.
So, I remember this kind of thought crossing my mind way back. Didn’t use those exact words maybe, but the feeling, that sense of… vastness? Unknown? Yeah, something like that. It felt weird, and honestly, a bit stupid later on. My first step was just admitting I didn’t know much. Felt pretty ignorant, actually.
What I Did Next – The Trying Part
I started trying to figure things out. Wasn’t about getting gross or clinical, just basic understanding.
- Looked stuff up: Just general info. How things work down there. Read about elasticity, how bodies respond to being turned on. It’s not like a static thing, it changes a lot. That was news to me, basically.
- Tried talking: This was awkward at first, not gonna lie. Brought it up carefully with my girlfriend. Not like, “Hey, why’s it like this?” but more about understanding her, how things felt for her. Communication turned out to be huge.
- Listened: Paid attention to what she said, how things changed moment to moment, day to day. It’s way more dynamic than I ever thought.
Figuring It Out – The Reality Check
What I landed on is simple: that whole ‘cave’ idea is just… wrong. It’s the kind of thing you think when you don’t know any better or you’re only thinking about yourself. It completely ignores the person, the connection, the actual physical reality of how bodies work and respond.
Here’s the real takeaway for me:
Bodies are different, sure. But the vagina is designed to be incredibly adaptable. It changes shape and size with arousal. It’s muscle. Thinking of it as just some empty space misses the point entirely. It’s like calling a complex machine ‘just a box’.
After childbirth, yeah, things can change too. Took some time to understand that process as well, talking and learning. Patience is key there.
Ultimately, I stopped thinking about dumb comparisons. Started focusing on the actual person, my partner. On communication. On making sure we were both feeling good, connected. That’s way more important than getting hung up on some weird, inaccurate analogy that popped into my head out of sheer ignorance.
So yeah, the ‘practice’ was really about educating myself and learning to communicate better. Dropped the silly ideas and focused on the real human connection. That made all the difference.
