Well, let me tell ya, this “attraction” thing, it’s a real head-scratcher. You know, when I first met my fella, sparks flew, I tell ya! Butterflies in my stomach, the whole shebang. Couldn’t keep my hands off him. He was somethin’ else, I tell ya!
But land sakes, things change, don’t they? Years go by, kids come along, wrinkles set in… and that fire, well, sometimes it just kinda fizzles out. Don’t get me wrong, I still love the old coot. He’s a good man, works hard, provides for the family. But that “spark,” that “oomph,” it ain’t always there no more.
- First off, it ain’t the end of the world, ya hear? Lots of folks go through this. Marriage ain’t all about jumpin’ in the sack, you know. It’s about companionship, support, raising a family, growing old together. That kinda stuff matters too.
- But, then again, if you ain’t happy, well, that’s a different story. Nobody wants to be stuck in a loveless marriage. It ain’t fair to you, and it ain’t fair to him neither. You gotta ask yourself some tough questions.
Now, some folks say you can work on it, try to rekindle that flame. Maybe go on a date night, get all gussied up, try to remember what it was like way back when. Maybe it’ll work, maybe it won’t. Every couple’s different, ya know?
And if you don’t wanna stay, well, that’s your choice too. Nobody can tell you what to do with your life. It’s a big decision, leavin’ someone you’ve been with for so long. But sometimes, it’s the right decision. You gotta do what’s best for you, what’s gonna make you happy in the long run. Don’t let others tell you what to do. It’s your life, not theirs.
I remember my neighbor, bless her heart, she went through somethin’ similar. Loved her husband, but just wasn’t “attracted” to him no more. They tried everything, counseling, the whole nine yards. But in the end, they decided to go their separate ways. It was hard, real hard, but she’s happier now, found someone new, someone who makes her feel that spark again. Good for her, I say.
But then there’s my sister, been married to the same man for fifty years. Said she ain’t felt that “attraction” in ages, but they’re still together, happy as clams. They got a different kind of love, a comfortable love, a love built on years of shared experiences. They’re best friends, partners in crime, and that’s enough for them. See? Everyone’s different.
So, if you ain’t attracted to your husband no more, don’t beat yourself up about it. It happens. It’s normal. Just figure out what you want, what’s gonna make you happy, and then go for it. Life’s too short to be miserable, ya hear? You deserve to be happy, plain and simple.
And don’t listen to all them fancy folks with their big words and complicated theories. Marriage is just two people tryin’ to make it work, tryin’ to find some happiness in this crazy world. Sometimes it works, sometimes it don’t. That’s just the way it is. So, trust your gut, listen to your heart, and do what’s right for you. That’s all any of us can do, ain’t it?
At the end of the day, it is important to remember that it isn’t the end of the world if that spark has left your marriage. Some people stay married and are happy. Others leave and are happy. You just need to think about yourself and what is best for you and your life. It may be a tough decision to make but in the end, it will be the best for you.
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