Okay, so I was trying to get a handle on this Gottman Couples Assessment thing. You know, that thing that’s supposed to help couples figure out their relationship issues? Yeah, that one. I wanted to see what the hype was all about, so I went looking for a PDF version of it.
First, I did a quick search to find something I could actually use. I typed in “Gottman Couples Assessment PDF” into the search bar. A bunch of results popped up, but some of them looked a little sketchy, so I skipped those.
I finally found a PDF that seemed legit. It had all these questions about communication, conflict resolution, intimacy, and all that jazz. It’s pretty detailed, I gotta say. The questionnaire covers, like, a ton of different aspects of a relationship. There were sections on trust, commitment, shared values, and even how you handle finances together.
I started filling it out, just for kicks, thinking about a past relationship of mine. It was kind of intense, honestly. It really made me think about the good and the bad parts of that relationship, and how we dealt with things. The questions were pretty straightforward, but some of them were a bit tough to answer. They were multiple choice with some room for adding your own thoughts.
- Communication: How well do you feel you and your partner communicate?
- Conflict: How do you typically handle disagreements?
- Intimacy: How satisfied are you with the level of intimacy in your relationship?
- Trust: Do you feel you can fully trust your partner?
I went through the whole thing, answering as honestly as I could. Some parts were easy to get through, other parts, not so much. Once you are done, you tally up your score.
After I finished, I took a look at the scoring guide. It gives you an idea of where your relationship strengths and weaknesses are. It’s kind of cool, but also a little scary to see it all laid out like that. I started to see some patterns in my own answers. It was eye-opening to realize how certain behaviors, both mine and my partner’s, might have contributed to our issues.
My Takeaway
Honestly, this assessment seems like it could be really helpful for couples who are willing to put in the work. It’s not just a quick fix, but it can definitely give you a clearer picture of what’s going on in your relationship. It’s a good starting point for talking things out and figuring out how to make things better.
It helps you find those weak spots and provides some guidance on how to address them. I can see why therapists use this with their clients. It’s a solid tool. It’s also free so that’s a plus!
