Okay, so last night, I decided to try that “going to bed mad” thing. You know, where you just go to sleep, even if you’re still fuming about something? Yeah, I did that. It’s not like in the movies, I can tell you that much.
The Fight
It started with a stupid argument with my partner about, I kid you not, dirty dishes. It was a minor argument,one of our silly arguments!But, you know how it is, little things can pile up. I think it was a Tuesday night, or maybe it was Monday…doesn’t matter. Anyway, we were both tired, stressed about work, and the dishes became the final straw.
We went back and forth, getting more and more heated. I said some things, they said some things, and eventually, I just felt this wave of exhaustion. Like, I couldn’t even argue anymore.
Trying to Sleep Angry
So, I remembered this “going to bed mad” advice. It was my choice,or go to sleep,or continue the fight. I thought, “Screw it, let’s see what happens.” I stomped off to the bedroom, slammed the door (okay, maybe I didn’t slam it, but I definitely closed it with force), and threw myself under the covers.
Lying there was…interesting. My mind was still racing, replaying the argument, crafting the perfect comebacks I should have said. My heart was pounding, and I could feel the tension in my jaw and shoulders.I am really a hot temper!
I tossed and turned. Tried counting sheep (who even came up with that?). Tried deep breathing. Nothing worked. Every time I started to drift off, some angry thought would jolt me awake.
The Morning After
Eventually, sometime in the wee hours of the morning, I finally fell asleep. I woke up a few hours later, still feeling…off. Not necessarily angry, but definitely not refreshed. There was this lingering awkwardness, like a heavy cloud hanging in the room.
We both kind of avoided each other at first. Then, over coffee, we started talking. It wasn’t a magical reconciliation. No apologies were gushing out. But the anger had definitely dissipated. We were able to talk about the dishes (and the underlying stress) like rational adults.I think we got a good result!
My Verdict
So, did “going to bed mad” work? Kind of. It didn’t magically solve our problems, but it did prevent the fight from escalating further. It gave us both some space to cool down.I feel a little released
Would I recommend it? Maybe. I think it depends on the situation and your personality. If you’re someone who needs to resolve things immediately, it might be torture. But if you can handle a bit of unresolved tension, it might be a useful tool to avoid saying things you’ll regret. Just don’t expect to wake up feeling like you had a peaceful night’s sleep!
