Okay, so, let’s talk about choking during sex. I’ve always been curious, so I decided to try it out with my partner. We talked about it a lot beforehand, and I mean a lot. Safety was our number one priority, obviously.
Getting Started
- Communication is key: We spent a good hour just discussing our boundaries. What felt good? What felt scary? What were our absolute “no-go” zones?
- Safe words are a MUST: We established a safe word (“pineapple”, because why not?) and a non-verbal tap-out signal.
- Start slow: We started with just gentle pressure on the sides of the neck, just to get a feel for it. No actual breathing restriction at first.
The Actual Experience
We started slow. My partner placed their hands gently on my neck during foreplay. I guided their hands, showing them exactly where and how much pressure felt okay. At first, it was just a light touch, more about the sensation of their hands on my skin than anything else.
Then, we gradually increased the pressure. I made sure to maintain eye contact with my partner the entire time. This was super important for both of us. It allowed me to gauge their comfort level and for them to see that I was okay. The feeling was…intense. A little scary, but also incredibly exciting. It definitely heightened the sensations.
We experimented with different positions. Sometimes I was on top, sometimes they were. This allowed us to control the pressure and intensity in different ways. I found that I preferred being on top, as it gave me more control over the situation.
We never went to the point where I felt like I was actually losing consciousness. It was always about that edge, that feeling of slight restriction, but never actually cutting off my air supply completely. We took breaks often, just to check in with each other and make sure we were both still feeling good.
Afterwards
After we were done, we cuddled and talked about the experience. We discussed what we liked, what we didn’t, and what we might want to try differently next time. It was a really bonding experience, honestly. It built a lot of trust between us.
It’s definitely not for everyone, and it requires a lot of trust and communication. But, for us, it was a really interesting and exciting way to spice things up. I will always remember that I took this step to try new things with my partner.
