How Does Losing Your Virginity Count? Well, Let Me Tell Ya
You know, all this talk about losin’ your virginity, it’s a whole lotta fuss if you ask me. Back in my day, we didn’t talk about it so much. It just happened, or it didn’t. But now, everybody’s gotta make a big deal outta it. So, how does it count? Well, that’s what I’m here to tell ya, in my own way.
First off, what even is this virginity thing, huh? Some folks say it’s when you have, you know, that thing. The whole shebang. Penetration, they call it. But some other folks, they say it’s anythin’ down there. You know, foolin’ around, touchin’ and such. Even a fella blowin’ or doin’ it with the hands, some count that too. So, really, it’s up to you, I reckon. You decide what counts for you.
- The Big Deed: This is what most people think of. You know, the in-and-out. That’s the one that definitely counts, no matter who you ask. If you’ve done that, well, then you ain’t a virgin no more, plain and simple.
- Foolin’ Around: Some youngsters these days, they count foolin’ around as losin’ it. Maybe some heavy pettin’, or somethin’ more. If that feels like losin’ your virginity to you, then that’s what it is. Don’t let nobody tell you different.
- Other Ways: Like I said, some folks count blowin’ or doin’ it with hands. It’s all about what you feel is right. If it feels like a big deal to you, then it is.
Now, there ain’t no age for this thing. Some folks do it young, some folks wait till they’re hitched, and some folks never do it at all. And that’s alright! Don’t let nobody pressure you into nothin’. You do it when you’re ready, or don’t do it at all. It ain’t nobody’s business but yours.
And let me tell ya, this whole thing about it hurtin’ the first time? Well, sometimes it does, sometimes it don’t. Every body is different, you see. And the bleedin’? That ain’t always a sure thing neither. Some girls bleed, some don’t. Don’t go thinkin’ somethin’s wrong with ya if you don’t bleed. It don’t mean a thing.
And for the fellas, well, there ain’t no way to tell if a fella’s done it or not, just by lookin’. A fella could be lyin’ through his teeth, and you wouldn’t know the difference. So, you just gotta trust ’em, I guess. Or don’t. That’s up to you too.
Now, some folks talk about this “secondary virginity” thing. That’s just a fancy way of sayin’ you ain’t doin’ it no more, after you’ve already done it. I don’t know why they gotta make up fancy words for everythin’. If you ain’t doin’ it, you ain’t doin’ it. Simple as that.
So, what’s the bottom line?
The bottom line is, it’s your body, your decision. You decide what counts as losin’ your virginity. Don’t let nobody tell ya different. And don’t go rushin’ into nothin’ you ain’t ready for. Life’s too short to be worryin’ about what other folks think. You do what’s right for you, and that’s all that matters.
What If You’re Scared?
And listen, if you’re scared, that’s okay too. It’s a big thing, this whole sex business. Don’t be ashamed to be scared. Talk to someone you trust. Your mama, your grandma, a good friend. Don’t go listenin’ to those youngins who think they know everythin’. They don’t know nothin’.
And remember, once you’ve done it, you’ve done it. There ain’t no goin’ back. So make sure you’re ready, and make sure it’s with someone you care about, and someone who cares about you. And don’t go feelin’ bad if you change your mind later on. Life’s complicated, and sometimes we change our minds. That’s just the way it is.
Don’t Worry About What Others Say
People are always gonna talk. They’re gonna gossip and whisper behind your back. But don’t let ‘em get to ya. Their opinions don’t matter one bit. What matters is how you feel, and what you think is right. So hold your head up high, and don’t be ashamed of who you are, or what you’ve done. You’re a good person, and don’t let nobody tell ya otherwise.
And that’s all I gotta say about that. Now go on, and live your life. And don’t forget what your old grandma told ya!
