Okay, so I wanted to talk a bit about something I’ve been consciously trying to do lately, which is showing more appreciation for my boyfriend. It sounds simple, maybe even a bit cheesy, but stick with me.
It kinda started a few weeks back. Things were just… normal. You know, routine. Work, dinner, TV, sleep. Not bad, but I caught myself thinking that we hadn’t really, like, actively acknowledged the good stuff in a while. He does a lot of little things, thoughtful things, that I realized I was just taking for granted. Like how he always makes sure my car has gas, or brings me a coffee just the way I like it without me asking.
So, I decided I needed to actually do something about it. Not just feel grateful inside my head, but show it. I wasn’t planning some huge gesture, nothing crazy. I just wanted to make it clear that I see the effort he puts in and that I really value him.
Putting it into Practice
My first step was pretty basic. I just started saying “thank you” more often, and being specific. Instead of a general thanks, I’d say, “Hey, thanks so much for sorting out the recycling, I really hate doing that.” Small, right? But I noticed it seemed to land differently.
Then I thought about things he enjoys. He’s been really busy with work, super stressed.
- I remembered he mentioned wanting to try this specific craft beer ages ago, but we never got around to it. So, next time I was at the store, I looked for it and actually found it. I just put it in the fridge without saying anything.
- Another evening, I knew he had a tough day, so I just ordered his favorite takeout before he even got home. Again, didn’t make a big deal out of it.
- I also started leaving little notes sometimes. Like, a sticky note on his computer screen saying “Good luck with your meeting!” or just “Thinking of you.”
It wasn’t about spending money or grand romantic stuff. It was more about paying attention and acting on those little opportunities to show I care, that I see him.
How It Went
Honestly? It felt really good. Seeing his face when he found the beer, or how he relaxed when he realized dinner was handled – it was genuinely nice. He definitely noticed. He started doing similar little things back, unprompted. It wasn’t like a transaction, more like it just created this… warmer vibe between us? Hard to explain.
It made me realize how easy it is to let the daily grind overshadow the good things. Taking a moment to consciously appreciate him didn’t just make him feel good, it made me feel happier and more connected too. It’s like putting a little log on the fire, you know? Keeps things warm.
So yeah, that’s my little practice. Nothing groundbreaking, just a small shift in focus. But it’s made a difference, and I plan to keep it up. Just focusing on saying thanks and doing those tiny thoughtful things. It really does add up.
