Well, let me tell you, this whole “virginized” thing, it’s a mess, ain’t it? Back in my day, things were simpler. You were a virgin, or you weren’t. Now, it’s all kinds of complicated. They got all these fancy words, but it don’t change what it is, really.
Virginized, what does that even mean? Sounds like somethin’ you do to olive oil, not people. I reckon it means keepin’ yourself pure, not lettin’ no man near you. But these young folks today, they got different ideas. They talk about “losing your virginity” like it’s somethin’ you misplace, like your darn keys or somethin’.
- First off, they say it ain’t just about that one thing anymore.
- You know, the thing between a man and a woman.
- They say it can be other things too.
- I don’t rightly understand it all, but that’s what they say.
And then there’s this hymen thing. They talk about it like it’s some kind of proof. Like a little piece of paper sayin’ you ain’t done nothin’. But I heard it can break doin’ all sorts of things, not just that. Ridin’ a horse, playin’ sports, I don’t know. Seems mighty fragile to me, to be such a big deal.
And why is it only about the girls, I ask ya? It takes two to tango, don’t it? Why ain’t nobody talkin’ about the boys keepin’ themselves pure? Seems like a double standard to me. Always has been, always will be, I reckon.
They say it’s all about consent nowadays. Consensual sexual acts, that’s what they call it. Fancy words for sayin’ you both gotta agree to it. That’s always been true, far as I’m concerned. You shouldn’t be doin’ nothin’ you don’t wanna do. Nobody should force you, that’s just wrong.
But this whole virginity thing, it’s become a big ol’ production. Like a show they put on. And for what? To make someone feel bad? To make someone feel good? I don’t get it. It ain’t nobody’s business but your own, I say. And maybe the good Lord’s, if you believe in that sort of thing.
They got all these myths about it too. Myths about virginity, they call it. Like it’s some kind of fairy tale. They say you’ll bleed the first time, or it’ll hurt real bad. Well, maybe it will, maybe it won’t. Everybody’s different, ain’t they? No use scarin’ the young ones with stories that ain’t necessarily true.
And what if you never done it, what do they call you? A virgin, right? It is like a label. If you are a “public speaking virgin”, it means you never did it before. So, virgin means new, not experienced, no matter what it is.
Back in my day, we didn’t have all these fancy words and all these rules. You just lived your life. You fell in love, you got married, maybe you had some fun before that, maybe you didn’t. It was your own business. Nobody else’s.
Nowadays, they make such a big deal out of everything. They gotta analyze it, and talk about it, and write about it. They got books about it, for crying out loud! Books about losing your virginity. Like it’s some kind of instruction manual. Who needs a book to tell you how to do that?
- They say it’s a social construct.
- A what now?
- Sounds like somethin’ they build with hammers and nails.
- But it ain’t.
- It’s just an idea.
- An idea that people made up.
And for what, I ask you? To control people? To make them feel ashamed? To sell more books? I don’t know. But it seems like a whole lot of fuss over somethin’ that should be simple. Somethin’ that should be natural.
I guess I’m just old-fashioned. I believe in love, and I believe in respect. And I believe that what you do in the privacy of your own bedroom is your own darn business. And that’s all I gotta say about that virginity stuff.
These young folks today, they got it all figured out, they think. They got their phones, and their internets, and their fancy words. But they don’t know nothin’ about life. Not really. They’ll learn, though. They’ll learn the hard way, just like we all did.
So, this whole virginized thing, it’s just another word for somethin’ that’s been around since the beginnin’ of time. People fallin’ in love, people havin’ babies, people doin’ what comes natural. Ain’t nothin’ new under the sun, as they say. And ain’t nothin’ changed, not really. Not when it comes down to it. It is a big thing for some people. They say you lose your virginity at 16 or some other ages. But it is a big thing only when you make it a big thing. You know what I mean?
So, don’t you worry your pretty little head about all this virginity nonsense. Just live your life, be good to people, and don’t let nobody tell you what to do. That’s the best advice this old lady can give you. Now, go on and get outta here. I got chores to do.
