My Journey Finding Simple Comfort
Alright, so folks often ask about the easiest ways to get close, you know? Over the years, I’ve definitely done my own share of, let’s call it ‘practical research’. It wasn’t about finding some magic bullet, just figuring out what felt natural and didn’t require us to be acrobats.
We started, like most people probably do, with the basics. I remember just trying things out, seeing what clicked without much fuss.
- Missionary: Okay, yeah, it’s the classic for a reason. I found this one really simple early on. Face-to-face, lots of connection, not much physical strain involved for either of us, really. We just sort of settled into it. Sometimes we’d prop up a pillow here or there, just small tweaks for comfort. It felt straightforward.
- Spooning: This one became a favorite, especially when we were feeling tired or just wanted something super relaxed. Lying on our sides, curled up together. Minimal effort, maximum closeness. I noticed it was great for lazy mornings or winding down at night. Just felt cozy and easy to maintain.
- Woman on Top: Now, this one took a bit of figuring out, but mostly for finding the right rhythm. The reason I’d put it on an ‘easy’ list, from my experience, is that it lets one person control the pace and depth completely. I found that took pressure off sometimes. You just lie back, and your partner handles the movement. We discovered different variations, like leaning forward or sitting more upright, changed how it felt, but the core idea remained simple.
What I figured out through all this experimenting:
Honestly, the ‘easiest’ really depends on the day, the mood, how tired you are. Sometimes simple is best. We found that focusing on what felt good and comfortable, rather than trying to hit some complicated pose we saw somewhere, was the key. We messed around with angles, pillow placements, just minor stuff until it felt right for us in that moment.
So, my record-keeping basically showed that sticking to positions where we felt relaxed and connected worked best long-term. Didn’t need a manual, just paid attention to each other and what felt good without making it feel like work. That’s pretty much the gist of what I learned through trying things out myself.
