Well now, let me tell ya about somethin’ called the “Gottman Feelings Wheel.” I know, it sounds fancy and all, but it’s just a way to help you figure out what in the world you’re feelin’. Now, you might be sittin’ there thinkin’, “What do I need a wheel for to know how I feel?” But trust me, it’s a real handy tool. You see, us folks tend to get all muddled up in our emotions sometimes, and this wheel can help sort ‘em out real nice like.
First off, let’s talk about how this wheel works. The wheel’s got all sorts of feelings on it, like a big ol’ pie chart. It’s got 72 different emotions, all grouped into 6 main sections. These sections are: sad, mad, scared, joyful, powerful, and peaceful. Each of these big groups is then split into smaller, more specific emotions, so you can really pinpoint just what you’re feelin’.
Now, when you’re usin’ this wheel, it’s important to be honest with yourself. I know, we don’t like to admit when we’re mad or sad, but it helps if you just go ahead and call it what it is. Say you’re feelin’ upset, but you can’t quite put your finger on it. Well, you go to the wheel, start with the big feelings like “sad” or “mad,” and then you go deeper into it, maybe findin’ out you’re feelin’ “disappointed” or “angry” instead. It can really help clear up the fog, especially when emotions are all jumbled up inside you.
Now, let’s take a closer look at them sections. Each one of ‘em has their own vibe. When you’re feelin’ “sad,” you might also feel things like “disappointed” or “grief.” That’s a tough one, isn’t it? But the wheel helps ya see that. For the “mad” section, maybe you’re feelin’ “frustrated” or “irritated,” somethin’ like that. The “scared” part might have you feelin’ things like “anxious” or “nervous.” You ever felt that way before? I know I sure have.
Now, if you’re on the other end of the wheel, you got the “joyful” side. When you’re feelin’ happy, it’s more than just “happy,” right? You might be feelin’ “excited” or “amused.” Feels good when that happens, don’t it? Then there’s the “powerful” side, which, I tell ya, is all about feelin’ strong and in control. You might be feelin’ “confident” or “determined.” That’s a good one to have when you need to get things done, for sure.
And last but not least, the “peaceful” section. You know, that calm and collected feelin’. Maybe you’re feelin’ “content” or “serene.” It’s nice to feel peaceful, like everything’s all settled and quiet. We don’t get enough of that nowadays, do we?
So, what’s the point of all this? Well, the Gottman Feelings Wheel helps ya get a better hold of your emotions. By understandin’ what’s goin’ on inside you, you can start to figure out what to do with them feelings. It’s like when you’re puttin’ together a puzzle; you gotta find all the pieces before you can make sense of it. And once you do that, well, you’re better equipped to handle whatever life throws at ya. No more lettin’ emotions just swirl around inside you without understandin’ ’em. You can deal with ‘em, and that’s a good thing.
So, next time you’re feelin’ all mixed up and don’t know where to start, just grab the wheel, take a look, and let it guide you. You might be surprised at how much easier it is to figure out what you’re really feelin’. And who knows, it might even help ya find a way to deal with it better. Feelings aren’t always easy to handle, but with the Gottman Feelings Wheel, you got yourself a good tool to help ya get through it. Give it a try, it might just do the trick.
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