Well now, folks, today I gotta tell ya ’bout somethin’ real important when it comes to relationships. It’s called “positive sentiment override.” Don’t let that fancy name fool ya, it’s simpler than you think! It’s just a way to talk about how good, warm thoughts about your partner can sometimes take over all the bad ones. And that’s what helps keep a relationship strong, ya see?
Now, let me break it down for ya. You know, sometimes when folks start fussin’ and fightin’, it’s easy to forget all the good stuff about the other person. When things ain’t goin’ so good, it’s real easy to focus on the bad – maybe you’re upset, or feelin’ misunderstood, or just plain tired of the same ol’ thing. That’s when Negative Sentiment Override (NSO) can slip in. It’s when all the bad stuff starts feelin’ more important than the good stuff, and you forget why you loved each other in the first place.
But with Positive Sentiment Override (PSO), well, it’s just the opposite. It’s when you got so many good thoughts about your partner and your relationship that even when times get tough, those good feelings take over. It’s like a big ol’ quilt of happy memories and love that covers up the cold spots. So when something small comes up – maybe your partner leaves their dirty socks all over the place again, or they forget to take out the trash – you remember the bigger picture. You remember all the times they made you laugh, all the little things they do for you, and how they make your life better.
It ain’t just about ignoring the bad stuff either. Nah, that’s not what I’m sayin’. It’s about balance. You gotta put in the effort to see the good, even when the bad tries to take over. It’s about makin’ sure that when you look at your partner, what stands out the most is love, trust, and respect. So you got to keep that positive view in your mind, and hold onto it like it’s the last piece of bread in the house!
Let me tell you, folks, Dr. John Gottman, he’s a smart feller who’s done a lot of work on relationships. He talks about this PSO in his book, “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.” He says that when the good feelings about your partner outweigh the bad ones, it makes a big difference. In fact, it’s like a shield against all those tough moments that can make a relationship crumble. His research shows that couples who practice PSO tend to handle their conflicts better and stick together longer. They see the bad stuff, but they don’t let it take over the whole picture.
Now, don’t get me wrong. This ain’t always easy. Sometimes you gotta work at it, especially when life gets busy and you’re runnin’ around all over the place. But remember, just like any good habit, you gotta practice it. Spend time with your partner, laugh together, support each other. Even when things are tough, keep those good feelings front and center. Don’t let the little things turn into big things. And don’t forget to let your partner influence you in a good way. When you let your partner’s positive actions and thoughts affect you, it’ll help you feel better about each other and make your bond stronger.
PSO also helps when you’re stressed out or mad about somethin’. Let’s face it, life can be real hard sometimes, and things don’t always go the way you want. But if you’re lookin’ for the good in your partner, it helps you handle them tough situations better. Maybe you’re both stressed about money, or one of you’s havin’ a rough time at work. If you keep that positive outlook, it makes it easier to support each other instead of lettin’ the stress tear ya apart.
So, in a nutshell, Positive Sentiment Override is about lookin’ at your partner with kind eyes, even when things ain’t perfect. It’s about rememberin’ the love, the laughter, and the good times. When you focus on that, it makes all the hard times a little easier to bear. And when both of you are doin’ that, well, your relationship’s got a real good chance of workin’ out, no matter what life throws at ya.
Just like that, folks. So, keep the love strong, remember the good, and let the bad stuff slide off like rain on a duck’s back. Trust me, it’ll do wonders for ya.
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