Okay, so, I’ve been trying to, you know, not be such a Stage 5 Clinger lately. It’s tough, man, really tough. I noticed that my friends seems that they don’t like hanging out with me. So I started to think, maybe I was too clingy? I guess so. I started to do something to change it.
First, I tried to figure out why I was being so clingy. Was it because I was feeling insecure? Or was it because I just really, really liked spending time with someone? It took some serious thinking, just sitting there, staring at the ceiling, trying to untangle my own brain. I realized that I got anxious when I spent time along, I just wanted to stay with someone all the time.
Once I had a better idea of what was going on, I started working on some strategies. Like, instead of instantly replying to every text message, I started waiting a bit. It was hard, like, really hard. My fingers were itching to type, but I forced myself to just chill. Sometimes I even put my phone in another room, just to get away from the temptation.
Then, I tried to find some new hobbies or activities to occupy my time. Something to focus on besides just waiting for someone to hang out with me. I tried going to gym, just staring at the mirror to see if I got any stronger. It didn’t really do it for me.
Rebuild My Social Circle
- Then I started to try to meet new people. Not to replace my old friends, but just to expand my social circle a bit. I joined a hiking group. It was a slow start, but after a few hikes, I started to feel more comfortable around people.
- I also tried to reconnect with some old friends that I hadn’t seen in a while. It was a bit awkward at first, catching up after so much time, but it was nice to have some other people to hang out with.
It’s still a work in progress, you know? Some days are better than others. Sometimes I still feel that urge to just bombard someone with messages, but I’m getting better at resisting it. I’m learning to be okay with just being by myself, and that’s a huge step for me.
I guess the main thing I’ve learned is that it’s okay to want to spend time with people, but it’s also important to have your own life. To be able to enjoy your own company. And that’s what I’m working towards. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. I feel more independent now, and it gives me confidence to do anything.
