Alright, let me tell ya somethin’ about this yellin’ husband thing. It ain’t right, not one bit. And lemme tell ya, a lot of us women folk, we go through it. Maybe not all the same, but similar enough, ya know?
So, you’re sittin’ there, mindin’ your own business, maybe cookin’ supper or washin’ clothes, and BAM! He starts in. Yellin’ and hollerin’ like a rooster at sunrise, but way less pleasant. You start thinkin’, “why my husband yells at me?” It ain’t like you did somethin’ terrible, or least not that you can figure.
- Sometimes, it’s the little things, ain’t it? Like maybe you forgot to put sugar in his coffee, or maybe the house ain’t spotless enough.
- Other times, it’s bigger stuff, like money problems or work troubles. He can’t yell at his boss, so he yells at you instead. That ain’t fair, but that’s how it goes sometimes.
Now, I ain’t no fancy doctor or nothin’, but I’ve seen enough in my life to know a thing or two. Some men, they just think yellin’ is how you get things done. Maybe that’s how their pappy talked to their mammy, and they just don’t know no better. They think it makes ’em sound strong or somethin’, but mostly it just makes ’em sound like a fool.
And let me tell ya, it ain’t good for you, this yellin’. It makes your heart race, gives you a headache, makes you feel small and worthless. You start walkin’ on eggshells, tryin’ not to set him off. It ain’t right to live like that. You gotta remember, you’re worth more than that. Nobody deserves to be hollered at all the time. It wears you down, makes you feel like you ain’t good enough. And that’s just plain wrong.
Stress is a big part of it, I reckon. Life ain’t easy, and men, they carry a lot of weight on their shoulders. But that don’t give ’em the right to take it out on you. They need to learn to talk, not yell. But teachin’ an old dog new tricks, well, that ain’t always easy. Sometimes they just don’t wanna listen, ya know? They think they’re always right, and you’re just supposed to nod along and agree.
So, what can you do when your man starts yellin’? Well, first off, try not to yell back. I know, it’s hard. You wanna give him a piece of your mind, but yellin’ just makes it worse. It’s like addin’ fuel to a fire. Instead, try to stay calm. Tell him, plain and simple, “Don’t you yell at me.” Set them boundaries, girl. You gotta let him know what’s acceptable and what ain’t.
If he keeps on yellin’, sometimes the best thing to do is just walk away. Go to another room, go outside, whatever it takes to get away from the noise. Let him cool off, and maybe he’ll realize he’s bein’ a jackass. And if he don’t, well, at least you ain’t gotta listen to it. Sometimes, you just gotta take care of yourself.
And listen, don’t be afraid to talk to someone about it. Your friends, your family, maybe even a preacher or a counselor. Don’t keep it all bottled up inside. It helps to have someone to listen, someone to tell you that you ain’t crazy, that you ain’t the one doin’ somethin’ wrong. There’s folks out there who can help, you just gotta reach out. Seeking outside support, that’s what they call it. But to me, it’s just common sense.
Now, some folks might say, “Oh, yellin’ ain’t so bad. Everybody yells sometimes.” And yeah, maybe that’s true. But when it’s all the time, when it makes you feel scared or worthless, then it’s a problem. It’s a big problem. And when it happens often, it becomes verbal abuse, which is a serious issue. Then you might ask yourself “is yelling a red flag?” and the simple truth is that yes, it often is. It’s a sign that somethin’ ain’t right, that there’s deeper problems in your marriage.
Marriage ain’t always easy, that’s for sure. But it shouldn’t be a battlefield neither. There should be respect, there should be kindness, and there sure as heck shouldn’t be constant yellin’. You deserve better than that. We all do.
So, if your husband’s yellin’ at you, don’t just sit there and take it. Stand up for yourself. Let him know it ain’t okay. And if he don’t listen, then maybe it’s time to think about whether this is the life you really want. Because life’s too short to be miserable, and nobody deserves to live in fear, especially not in their own home.
