Okay, so I’ve been meaning to get a handle on how couples are doing, especially before they tie the knot or when they hit a rough patch. I figured a good way to do that was with a relationship counseling questionnaire. So, I started digging around.
Finding the Right Questions
First, I tried to figure out what kinds of questions would actually help. I mean, I didn’t want to just ask random stuff. It had to be useful, you know?
I spent a good chunk of time googling different questionnaires and reading advice from actual relationship counselors. Some of it was way too complicated, full of jargon I didn’t even understand.
Putting It Together
After a while, I started to see some common themes. Stuff like communication, conflict resolution, shared values, and intimacy kept popping up. So I started jotting down questions based on those areas. I wanted to keep it simple, direct, and easy to understand.
- Communication: “How often do you feel truly heard by your partner?” “Do you feel comfortable talking about difficult things?”
- Conflict: “How do you usually handle disagreements?” “Do you feel like your fights are productive, or do they just make things worse?”
- Values: “What are the most important things in your life?” “Do you and your partner share similar goals for the future?”
- Intimacy: “How satisfied are you with your physical intimacy?” “Do you feel emotionally connected to your partner?”
I ended up with maybe 20 or 25 questions, trying to cover all the important bases without making it too overwhelming.
Testing it Out
Next, I wanted to see if it actually worked. I roped in a few friends who were in relationships, and asked them to fill it out. I told them to be brutally honest, even if it felt awkward.
The Result
Getting their feedback was super helpful. Some questions were confusing, so I reworded them. Others felt repetitive, so I combined them. The whole process was a lot of trial and error, honestly.
In the end, I felt like I had a decent questionnaire. It wasn’t perfect, but it was a good starting point. It gave me a much better idea of what to look for and how to actually help couples talk through their issues. It’s still a work in progress, and I’m still messing with it, but it is a good begin.
