Well, let me tell you somethin’ about this “if they wanted to they would” thing. Folks these days, they like to make things sound all fancy, but it ain’t always that complicated, you hear?
What does that even mean, “if they wanted to they would”? Sounds like somethin’ them young’uns on that TickTock thing are jabberin’ about. Basically, it means if a fella really cares, he’ll make time for ya. He’ll put in the effort, you know? Like, if he wanted to see ya, he’d come a-knockin’. If he wanted to call, he’d pick up the dang phone. It’s as simple as that.
Now, some of them smarty-pants folks, them experts they call ‘em, they say it ain’t always that cut and dry. One fella, a doctor somethin’ or other, says there’s more to people than just that. And I guess that’s true sometimes. Life’s messy, you know? But still, it makes a body think.
- If he wanted to take you out, he’d find the time.
- If she wanted to talk, she’d pick up the phone.
- If they wanted to be there for you, they wouldn’t make excuses.
It’s like this, if you’re always waitin’ around for someone, always makin’ excuses for why they ain’t doin’ this or that, well, maybe you’re wastin’ your time. This sayin’, it helps you see when someone ain’t worth the trouble. It gives you hope that you’ll find someone who will actually give a darn.
But let’s not be foolish, now. You gotta be reasonable. If your fella’s stuck in a snowstorm, well, he ain’t gonna be able to come over, now is he? It’s gotta be somethin’ that’s doable. Somethin’ within reason, like they say.
And how long does it take for a man to know if he wants to stick around? Well, that’s anyone’s guess. Some say a few months, some say a year. Every fella’s different, just like every pot of beans cooks up different. You can’t rush it, but you also can’t be sittin’ around forever waitin’ for somethin’ that ain’t comin’.
Truth tellin’ is important, too. You gotta be honest with each other, you know? If you ain’t bein’ truthful, you ain’t got nothin’. Trust is like a good quilt; it takes time and effort to make, but it keeps you warm and cozy. But if you start pullin’ at the threads with lies, the whole thing falls apart.
Relationships ain’t always easy, that’s for sure. You ain’t always gonna like your fella, and you ain’t always gonna feel all lovey-dovey. That’s just life. Sometimes you gotta grit your teeth and work through things. But you shouldn’t always have to be the one doin’ all the work. It should be like a good dance, both folks movin’ together.
So, this “if they wanted to they would” thing…it’s a good way to keep yourself in check. It’s a good reminder that you deserve someone who will make an effort. Someone who will show you they care, not just with words, but with actions. Because talk is cheap, you know? Words are easy. It’s what a person does that really matters.
Don’t be fooled by sweet talk and empty promises. Look at what they do. Do they make time for you? Do they listen to you? Do they show up when you need them? That’s how you know. That’s how you know if they really want to.
And if they don’t? Well, then maybe it’s time to move on. There’s plenty of fish in the sea, as they say. Don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t see your worth. Find someone who will. Someone who will show you, every day, that they want to. Because when someone truly wants to, they will. It really is that simple sometimes.
Remember, you’re worth it. Don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve. And if someone ain’t treatin’ you right, well, kick ‘em to the curb! Life’s too short to be wastin’ it on folks who don’t appreciate you. You find someone who wants to be there, who wants to put in the effort, and you hold on tight. Because that kind of love, that kind of care, that’s worth more than all the gold in the world.
So next time you’re sittin’ around wonderin’ if someone cares, just remember this sayin’: “if they wanted to they would”. It might just save you a whole lotta heartache. And that’s the truth, plain and simple.
