So, I’ve been seeing this phrase “if he wanted to, he would” tossed around a lot lately. It’s kind of like the new relationship mantra, and I got curious. I started to dig into it and see if there was any truth to it, or if it’s just another one of those internet sayings that sounds good but doesn’t really hold up in real life.
I started by looking at where this whole thing came from. Turns out, it’s a way for people, mainly women, to say “Hey, if this guy really wanted to be with you or do something for you, he would just do it. Stop making excuses for him.” I guess it’s supposed to be empowering, a way to stop wasting time on people who aren’t putting in the effort.
Here’s what I did:
- Read through a bunch of online forums and articles. There are tons of discussions on this topic.
- Talked to some of my friends, both single and in relationships, to get their take on it.
- Reflected on my own past experiences. I’ve definitely been in situations where I was bending over backward for someone who wasn’t doing the same for me.
After all that, I realized this phrase isn’t as simple as it seems. Sure, if a guy is constantly blowing you off or making lame excuses, then yeah, maybe he’s just not that into you. But people are complex. Sometimes there are legit reasons why someone might not be able to show up in the way you want them to. Maybe they’re dealing with their own stuff, like family issues or mental health struggles.
I found that some folks take this “if he wanted to, he would” thing way too far. They use it as a blanket statement for every situation, which isn’t fair or realistic. It’s like they’re saying every guy has to be perfect all the time, and that’s just not how life works.
Here’s what I learned: This phrase can be helpful as a reminder to value yourself and not settle for less than you deserve. But it shouldn’t be the only rule you live by. Relationships are messy, and communication is key. If you’re not sure where you stand with someone, the best thing to do is talk to them about it. Don’t just assume they’re not interested based on some internet quote.
So, that’s my take on the whole “if he wanted to, he would” thing. It’s got some truth to it, but it’s not the whole story. What do you guys think? Let me know in the comments!
