Alright, so you wanna know about this “bid for affection” thing, huh? Well, lemme tell ya, it ain’t as fancy as it sounds. It’s just folks tryin’ to get a little love and attention, plain and simple.
What’s a Bid for Affection Anyways?
You see, it’s like this. Ever try to get your husband to look up from his newspaper when you’re talkin’? Or maybe you tell your kid about somethin’ that happened at the market, and you’re hopin’ they’ll listen? That’s what this “bid” thing is all about. It’s like you’re throwin’ a line out there, hopin’ someone on the other end will grab it.
It ain’t always words, mind you. Sometimes it’s a look, you know? Like when your eyes meet across the room and you just *know* what the other person is thinkin’. Or maybe it’s a little touch, like a pat on the back or holdin’ hands. Even a sigh, yeah, a sigh can be a bid for affection. It’s like sayin’, “Hey, I’m here, notice me, care about me.”
- It could be a story about your day.
- It could be a question, like “How was your day?”.
- It could be a touch, like a hug.
- It could even be just a look.
Why Bids Matter, You Know, For Keepin’ Folks Close
Now, why’s all this important? Well, it’s how we keep folks close. If you’re always ignorin’ those little bids, well, pretty soon folks stop tryin’. It’s like a plant, you gotta water it if you want it to grow. Same with relationships. You gotta pay attention to them little bids for affection if you want the love to keep flowin’. If you keep ignorin’ them, the other person might just stop tryin’. Then what? Then you end up lonely, that’s what.
I seen it happen. Couples who used to be all lovey-dovey, now they just sit there at the dinner table like strangers. Don’t talk, don’t look at each other, nothin’. Why? Because they stopped payin’ attention to them bids. They got too busy, too caught up in their own stuff, and they forgot to connect.
How to Spot a Bid and What to Do With It
So, how do you spot these bids? Well, you gotta pay attention. Really pay attention. Put down your phone, turn off the TV, and look at the people around you. Listen to what they’re sayin’, but also watch their faces, their body language. Are they tryin’ to get your attention? Are they tryin’ to connect with you?
And when you see a bid, what do you do? Well, you respond! You don’t have to do somethin’ big, just somethin’ to show them you heard them, you see them, you care. A smile, a nod, a little “uh-huh,” that’s all it takes sometimes. Or maybe you ask them a question, tell them a story back, give them a hug. Just somethin’ to let them know you’re there, you’re listenin’, and you care.
Don’t Be Ignorin’ Folks, It Ain’t Right
Look, life’s too short to be ignorin’ the folks you love. We all need connection, we all need to feel loved and appreciated. So pay attention to them little bids for affection. They’re important. They’re how we build strong relationships, how we keep the love alive. And believe me, a little bit of love goes a long way.
So next time your husband tries to tell you about his day, or your kid wants to show you a picture they drew, put down what you’re doin’ and pay attention. It ain’t gonna kill ya, and it might just make all the difference in the world.
It’s the Little Things That Count, You Know
Remember, it ain’t always the big things that matter. Sometimes it’s the little things, the little bids for affection, that keep us connected. So keep your eyes open, keep your ears open, and keep your heart open. And don’t be afraid to throw out a few bids of your own. You never know, you might just get a whole lotta love in return.
It Ain’t Rocket Science, Just Plain Ol’ Common Sense
This ain’t some fancy book learnin’ stuff, you know. It’s just plain ol’ common sense. Treat folks right, pay attention to them, and let them know you care. That’s all there is to it. And if you do that, you’ll have more love and happiness in your life than you know what to do with. So go on, give it a try. Start payin’ attention to them bids for affection. You won’t regret it.
It’s like plantin’ seeds. You plant them seeds of kindness and attention, and you get a whole garden of love growin’ up around ya. It’s up to you to make it bloom.
Tags: Affection, Relationships, Communication, Connection, Love, Family, Friendship, Emotional Bids, Gottman, Attention
