Okay, so, CNC, right? I messed around with this a bit, and let me tell you, it’s a wild ride. At first, I was like, “What the hell is this even?” But then, curiosity got the better of me. I started digging into it, and it’s like, you gotta be careful, man. This stuff can get pretty intense, pretty fast.
First thing I did was just read up on it. Like, what are people doing with this? It’s all about, like, giving up control, you know? Letting someone else take the reins completely. That’s the main idea, I guess. Anyway, I went online, read a bunch of stuff, and watched some videos. After reading those stuff, I just realized that consent is the key to making this work safely. And you can’t just say “yes” and think that’s enough. You gotta be super clear about what you’re okay with and what you’re not.
So, after I felt like I had a decent understanding, I decided to try it out with a partner I really trust. We talked about it a lot beforehand. Like, a lot. We made a list of things we were curious about, things we were definitely not into, and used some safe words if things got too intense. That’s what those online posts said, so we just did what we read.
- Setting boundaries: We were very detailed about this. “This is okay,” “that’s a no-go,” “maybe we can try this later,” you know? Being on the same page is key.
- Safe words: We picked a word that we wouldn’t normally use in a sexual situation. Something totally random, so there’s no confusion.
- During the experience: We started slow. Just some light stuff to test the waters. It was weird at first, giving up that control. But also kind of exciting, I guess? And I tried to do some roleplay. We checked in with each other a lot, making sure we were still feeling good.
Afterward, we talked about it again. What we liked, what we didn’t, what we might want to try differently next time. It was important to process it all, you know? Make sure we were both okay with how things went down.
My thoughts
Look, this CNC thing, it’s not for everyone. It’s definitely an acquired taste, I would say. But if you’re curious, just be smart about it. Talk to your partner, set those boundaries, and keep checking in with each other. It’s all about having fun, right? But also staying safe. And don’t be afraid to say “no” if something doesn’t feel right. Trust your gut, you know? So, what do you guys think? I feel this is pretty exciting.
