So, this has been a thing lately, and I just gotta share what I’ve been doing about it. I mean, my husband, he’s been yelling at me, like, a lot. And it’s not cool, not cool at all.
First off, I tried to figure out what was going on. Why the yelling? Was it me? Was it him? Turns out, it’s kinda both. He’s got all this stress from work, money stuff, you know, life. And, well, I guess I wasn’t really helping. Sometimes I just didn’t get why he was so mad, and I’d just shut down or talk back, which, yeah, not the best move.
So, I started by, like, actually listening to him. Not just hearing the yelling, but really listening to what he was trying to say underneath all that noise. It was tough, I won’t lie. I had to, like, bite my tongue a lot. But I tried to just hear him out, even when I really wanted to scream back.
Then, I tried to stay calm. This was super hard, especially when he’s all loud and stuff. But I figured, if I get all riled up too, it’s just gonna be a huge mess. So, I practiced taking deep breaths, counting to ten, all that jazz. It didn’t always work, but hey, it was something.
- Talking it out, like, actually having a conversation when we were both calm. That was a game changer. I told him how the yelling made me feel, and he, surprisingly, listened.
- Setting some ground rules. We agreed that yelling wasn’t okay, and we’d try to talk things out like grown-ups.
- Getting some space when things got too heated. Sometimes, we just needed a break from each other to cool down.
It wasn’t easy, and it’s not like everything’s perfect now. We still have our moments. But I realized that taking these steps, trying to understand, staying calm, and talking it out, it made a big difference. It’s like, we’re learning to fight fair, you know? And that’s gotta count for something.
Honestly, doing all this was exhausting, but also kinda empowering. I felt like I was actually doing something about the problem, not just taking it. And seeing him try to change too, that was huge. It’s like, we’re in this together, trying to figure things out, one step at a time. And maybe now I could handle things better.
