Alright, so let’s talk about this “fourth date meaning” thing. I’ve been dipping my toes back into the dating pool lately, and it’s been, well, a journey. I recently went on a fourth date with this guy, and it got me thinking about what that even means in today’s dating world.
So, I met this guy on one of those dating apps – you know the drill, swipe, match, chat. We hit it off pretty well, good banter, similar interests, the usual stuff. We decided to meet up for coffee, which then turned into dinner, and somehow, we ended up going on three dates. Not bad, right?
Now, here’s where it gets interesting. We’re planning this fourth date, and I started overthinking it. What does a fourth date mean? Is it serious? Are we exclusive now? My mind was racing. I did some digging online, and I found all sorts of things. Some people say it’s when you can finally be yourself, others say it means you’re basically in a relationship. It’s all so confusing!
I decided to just go with the flow. I mean, I liked the guy, and we had fun together, so why ruin it by overthinking? We went to this cool little art exhibit, something we both were into. It wasn’t some grand romantic gesture, just a chill evening, checking out art and chatting.
Here’s what I realized during that date – it’s not about the number. Sure, a fourth date might mean you’re more interested than you were on the first, but it doesn’t have to be some huge milestone. For me, it was about seeing if this guy was someone I could actually see myself with, beyond just a few fun dates.
We talked, like really talked. Not just about our favorite movies or what we did over the weekend, but about our goals, our fears, you know, the real stuff. And it was…nice. It felt comfortable, natural. I wasn’t trying to impress him or be someone I’m not, and I don’t think he was either.
- I learned that he’s actually pretty cool.
- I learned that I was not just a number to him.
- I learned that I can totally be myself around him.
- I learned that maybe, just maybe, this could actually go somewhere.
So, what’s the big takeaway from my fourth date experience? Honestly, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. Every person and every relationship is different. What’s most important is to be honest with yourself and with the other person. If you’re enjoying their company and you feel a connection, that’s all that matters.
I’m not saying this guy is “the one” or that we’re going to get married or anything, but I am saying that a fourth date doesn’t have to be scary or complicated. It’s just another step, another chance to get to know someone and see where things go. And who knows, it might just lead to something great. Or it might not, and that’s okay too. The important thing is to just enjoy the ride.
I’m going to keep seeing this guy, see where it leads. No pressure, no expectations, just taking it one date at a time. And hey, if it doesn’t work out, at least I had a few good dates and learned a thing or two about myself in the process. That’s a win in my book.
