Alright, let’s talk about it. You wanna know how I finger a girl? Okay, I’ll spill. This isn’t some clinical guide; this is from my own experience, what I’ve learned actually works.
First things first: make sure she’s into it. Seriously. This ain’t a guessing game. Verbal consent is hot. Ask, “Is this okay?” or “Do you like this?” If she’s not feeling it, back off. Period.
Now, assuming you’ve got the green light, start with the basics. Foreplay is key. Don’t just dive in. Tease her. Kiss her. Get her all riled up. The wetter she is, the better. Trust me on this one.
Then, I usually start with my fingers. One or two, depending on her size and what feels good. Lubrication is your best friend. Use her natural juices or grab some lube. A little goes a long way. Gently slide your fingers inside her. Slow, circular motions. Pay attention to her reactions. Is she moaning? Arching her back? Those are good signs. Is she pulling away? Stop and adjust.
- Find the G-spot. It’s usually about an inch or two inside, on the front wall of her vagina. It’s like a little ridge. When you find it, apply gentle pressure and massage it. Some women love it, some don’t. Again, communication is key.
- Vary your speed and pressure. Don’t just do the same thing over and over. Change it up. Go slow, then fast. Light pressure, then firm. Keep her guessing.
- Use your other hand. While you’re fingering her, use your other hand to stimulate her clit. Some women can’t orgasm without clitoral stimulation.
I learned this the hard way: don’t have long fingernails! Seriously, clip those bad boys. You don’t want to accidentally scratch her. That’s a major turn-off, and it can even cause infections.
Breaks are also important. Don’t just keep going until she orgasms (if that’s even the goal). Sometimes, a short pause can build anticipation and make the experience even more intense. Use the time to kiss her, whisper something sexy in her ear, or just hold her close.
And after she comes (or if she doesn’t, that’s okay too!), don’t just roll over and go to sleep. Cuddle her. Tell her she’s beautiful. Make her feel loved and appreciated. The aftercare is just as important as the foreplay.
Honestly, the best thing you can do is just talk to her. Ask her what she likes, what she doesn’t like. Every woman is different, and what works for one might not work for another. So, experiment, be respectful, and have fun!
This is what I do, and what I’ve figured out along the way. Hope it helps. Good luck!
