Alright, alright, let’s talk about this… uh… what’s it called? BDSM dom thing. Don’t go giggling now, I’m old but I ain’t deaf. I heard some young folks whispering ‘bout it down at the market. Figured I’d do some pokin’ around and see what all the fuss is about. Sounds like some kinda fancy city thing, but even us country folk can learn a thing or two, eh?
So, from what I gather, this BDSM stuff, it’s got somethin’ to do with… how do I put this… bein’ in charge, like, really in charge. And the other person, they like it that way. Kinda like how my old man used to tell me what to do, except, you know, with more… ropes, maybe? I don’t know, city folks are strange.
Now, this “dom” part, that’s the bossy one. Man, woman, or somethin’ in between, they the one callin’ the shots. They the one sayin’ “jump” and the other person… well, they jump. It ain’t about bein’ mean or nothin’, though. Leastways, not all the time. It’s about, um, playin’ a role, like in them movies you young’uns watch. Only, you know, more… hands-on. I’ve heard some of them even got fancy rules about it all.
- Being in charge: The dom, that’s the boss, plain and simple. They tell you what to do, and you do it.
- Rules and stuff: It ain’t just willy-nilly. They got rules, boundaries, they call ‘em. Like, “Don’t touch that,” or “Do this now.” Keeps things safe, I guess.
- Different kinds of doms: Just like there’s different kinds of folks, there’s different kinds of doms. Some are gentle, some are… not so gentle. Some like it rough, some like it sweet. To each their own, I reckon.
They say some of these doms, they like the… sadism part. Now, I ain’t no doctor, but that sounds a bit scary. Somethin’ to do with, uh, gettin’ pleasure from… well, you know… not so nice things. But then there’s the other side, the masochism, where the other person… they like it. Goes to show, it takes all kinds to make a world. I still remember my old hens, some liked to peck, some liked to get pecked. Nature, I guess.
And it ain’t all just about bein’ bossy, you know. This dom person, they gotta be responsible, too. Like, they gotta make sure the other person, the… the submissive, they call ‘em, they gotta make sure they’re safe and sound. Can’t just go around doin’ whatever you want. Even on the farm, you gotta treat your animals with respect, even if you the one in charge. Same thing here, I figure.
Seems like there’s a whole lotta talkin’ involved, too. You can’t just go around tyin’ folks up without askin’ first, right? Well, maybe some folks do, but that don’t seem right. They say good doms, they talk to their… partners… yeah, partners. They talk about what they like, what they don’t like, what’s okay and what ain’t. Communication, they call it. Sounds like good advice for any relationship, if you ask me.
Important dom stuff:
- Talkin’ it out: Gotta make sure everyone’s on the same page, knows what’s happenin’, what’s gonna happen.
- Safety first: No point in havin’ fun if someone gets hurt. Gotta be careful, gotta know what you’re doin’.
- Respect and trust: Even though one person’s in charge, there’s gotta be respect. Gotta trust each other, gotta know where the lines are.
I heard them young folks sayin’ somethin’ about power exchange. That’s a fancy way of sayin’ one person’s givin’ up control to the other person. And that ain’t always a bad thing, you know. Sometimes it’s nice to let someone else take the wheel, so to speak. Long as you trust ‘em, long as they know what they’re doin’. Reminds me of when I let my grandson drive the tractor for the first time. Scared me half to death, but he did alright.
So, this BDSM dom thing, it ain’t as simple as I thought. It’s about power, yeah, but it’s also about trust, and communication, and knowin’ your limits. And, I guess, it’s about folks findin’ ways to be happy, even if it’s a little different from what I’m used to. Lord knows, life’s too short to be judgin’ what other folks do behind closed doors, long as they ain’t hurtin’ nobody. And I reckon if they are doin’ it right, there is probably a whole bunch of safety stuff they got figured out first. I ain’t sure what it is, but I am sure it is important if you’re gonna go messin’ around with ropes and bossin’ each other.
I still don’t fully get it all, but I reckon I understand a bit more now. It’s a whole different world out there, and maybe us old folks can learn a thing or two from the young’uns after all. Just gotta keep an open mind, and remember that everyone’s different. And if folks wanna tie each other up and play boss, well, that’s their business, long as they ain’t botherin’ me none.
