Okay, so, let’s talk about something that’s been bugging me lately. My husband, he’s a good guy, really, but sometimes, he just… yells. And it’s not the good kind of yelling, like when your team wins the game. It’s the kind that makes you feel small, you know?
So, I started this little project, kind of like a detective, but about my own life. I decided to track whenever he yelled. Not in a creepy way, just a little note on my phone. Date, time, what we were talking about, the whole shebang.
At first, it was just random. Like, one day he yelled because I forgot to take out the trash. Another time it was because dinner wasn’t ready when he got home. It felt all over the place, and frankly, it made me feel pretty crappy.
But then, I started to see a pattern. It wasn’t about the trash or the dinner, not really. It was always when he was stressed out from work. He’d come home wound up tighter than a drum, and any little thing would set him off.
Digging Deeper
- Tried talking to him about it when he was calm. It was tough.
- Realized he wasn’t even aware of how often it was happening.
- Started suggesting we do things to relax after work, like taking a walk or watching a movie.
It wasn’t a magic fix. He still yells sometimes. But it’s way less now. And when he does, he catches himself quicker. We talk about it more openly. It’s like we’re learning this new language of dealing with stress together.
It’s not perfect, but it’s progress. And honestly, it feels good to understand what’s going on, instead of just feeling like I’m walking on eggshells all the time. I just wanted to share my notes because maybe it could help someone. Marriage is one hell of a hard work and every now and then, it just get us.
