Okay, so the other day I stumbled upon something talking about how Libras like us can totally wreck our own lives, you know? Typical stuff: indecisive, people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, getting stuck overthinking everything. And honestly? I just sat there nodding like, “Yep. Yep. That’s me. That’s exactly why things feel messy sometimes.” Felt like reading my own diary.
Actually Seeing the Mess
First step was admitting, yeah, I kinda mess things up sometimes. Like last week. My friend asked if I wanted to go hiking Saturday. I actually hate hiking, it’s sweaty and buggy. But you know what I said? “Yeah, sure, sounds great!” Why? Because saying ‘no’ felt rude. Then later, my cousin invited me to her kid’s birthday party… also Saturday afternoon. Instead of being honest with either of them, I panicked. I told my cousin, “Maybe, gotta check!” And spent two days stressing over how to bail on hiking without looking bad, and how to explain being late to the party if I did go. I ended up going hiking, hating every minute, feeling rushed, got to the party late feeling guilty, and everyone could tell I was stressed. Total disaster. Classic Libra nonsense. I ruined my own Saturday completely because I wouldn’t just speak up.
Digging into the Why
After that disaster, I figured I needed to understand why I keep doing this dumb stuff. I pulled out my old journal (the one I haven’t touched in months… classic). I started flipping back. It was kinda shocking.
- Indecision: Page after page of agonizing over tiny decisions. “Which phone case? Blue or green? Pros/Cons list started…” Seriously? It’s a phone case! This happens with big stuff too – jobs, relationships, what to eat!
- People-Pleasing: Saw so many examples. Agreeing to work shifts I didn’t want. Buying gifts I couldn’t afford because I felt obligated. Sticking around in draining conversations way too long.
- Conflict Avoidance: Notes about things that bugged me – a friend always being late, someone borrowing stuff and not returning it. But then… nothing. I never said anything. Just wrote it down and stewed.
- Overthinking & Stagnation: Big dreams written down… “Learn guitar,” “Start that side hustle.” But then pages of, “Which online course is best? What if I suck? Is it worth the time?” No action. Just endless circles in my head.
The pattern was screamingly obvious. My desire for peace and balance was actually making everything chaotic and draining my energy.
Trying to Fix It… One Tiny Step
Enough was enough. I needed to actually do something different, today, not just think about doing something someday. Here’s what my “fix it” day looked like:
- The Small “No”: My neighbor caught me getting the mail. “Hey! Free later? Help me move this couch?” Old me: “Uhh, yeah, maybe, let me see.” New me took a tiny breath: “Actually, no, I’ve got stuff going on today. Sorry!” Felt TERRIFYING for like 2 seconds. Then… relief. He just said, “Okay, no problem!”
- Making a Quick Decision: Needed groceries. Usually, I wander aisles comparing prices forever. Today, I gave myself 30 seconds per item. Just grabbed the first brand that looked decent. Done in half the time. Nobody died. Felt weirdly powerful.
- Acknowledging a Feeling (Out Loud!): My partner was venting about his boss. Instead of just nodding silently thinking “This is draining me,” I said (gently!), “I get why you’re stressed, that sounds tough. Mind if we shift gears for a bit? I need a break from heavy stuff.” Felt scary, but he just said, “Yeah, fair point.” Conflict avoided without me bottling it up!
- Doing One Thing: Instead of researching guitar courses for hours, I spent 5 minutes googling “super beginner guitar chords.” Found a diagram. Grabbed my dusty old guitar. Struggled to make a C chord sound right for 10 minutes. Progress? Tiny. Action? Huge.
What Happened?
Man, it wasn’t magic. I still felt the indecision itch, the people-pleasing urge. But actually DOING those things – saying a tiny “no,” deciding quickly, naming my need for a break, physically touching the guitar – it felt… lighter.
It proved it’s possible. You can push back against those Libra habits without the world ending. The fear of the fallout is almost always way bigger than the actual fallout. That Saturday disaster was entirely my own fault, built on layers of inaction and fear. Today’s small victories were also mine.
It’s just practice, right? Recognizing the self-sabotage patterns is step one. Seeing how they specifically mess up your own life (like wrecking a perfectly good Saturday) makes it real. Then, the only “fix” is doing something – literally anything – differently right now, no matter how small. It’s about building that muscle, one awkward “no” or quick decision or small action at a time. Definitely still a work in progress, but I feel less like I’m ruining things today. Feels good.
