Alright, let’s talk about this thing I’ve been exploring. You know how these intimate things sometimes feel a bit awkward or like you’re not quite hitting the mark? Yeah, been there. So, I figured I needed to actually pay attention and practice properly to get better feedback.
Getting Started – More Than Just Going Through the Motions
Honestly, my old approach was kinda… uninspired. It felt like something on a checklist, just part of the routine. I realized I was kinda zoning out, not really connecting with my partner or tuning into the actual effect it was having. Feedback was basically nonexistent, unless it was a clear “stop” or “faster.” Not super helpful for improvement.
Deciding to Actually Learn
Enough of that. Time for a proper experiment. The goal wasn’t just doing it, but figuring out how to do it to actually get a bigger, better response. Maximum feedback, right? Here’s how it went down:
- Started Slow & Paid Attention: Instead of diving headfirst like usual, I went super slow. Barely any pressure at first, almost like testing the water.
- Tried Different Patterns: Circles? Gentle flicks? Longer strokes? Keeping it light and experimental, watching and feeling intently for any shift in breathing, movement, or sound.
- Ignored the Clock: Forget timing. This wasn’t about speed. It was about reacting to the micro-signals I was picking up.
- Communicated More: Sounds simple, right? But I actually started asking direct, easy questions during, whispered stuff like “Is this spot good?” or responding to a gasp with “More like this?”. Actual dialogue happened.
What Clicked (And What Didn’t)
Man, going slow was a game-changer. It forced me to really notice those tiny reactions I’d always missed before – the way muscles tightened slightly here, or breathing hitched there. Those became my new guideposts.
Varying the movement made a huge difference too. Sticking to just one thing got dull fast. Switching it up seemed to keep things surprising and build anticipation way more effectively.
The communication part? Awkward at first, for sure. But pushing past that initial weirdness was crucial. Getting direct “yes” or “adjust” signals in the moment was way more valuable than interpreting grunts later. Instant feedback loop! Biggest surprise? The pauses. Taking my mouth away completely for just a beat, the tension building… Way more powerful than I thought it would be.
The Outcome – Feedback Galore
Putting all this together wasn’t magic, it was mindful practice. The result? Responses weren’t just bigger; they were way more vocal and physically expressive. It wasn’t just about the final result; the entire process became more interactive and involved. It stopped being something I did and became something we both actively participated in.
So yeah, “Licking Right” isn’t about one specific trick. It’s about ditching autopilot. Slow down. Pay real attention. Talk. Mix it up. Listen and watch. Seriously, the difference is night and day once you actually focus on the feedback you’re getting.
