Okay, let’s talk about why my husband always yells at me. It’s been a real struggle, and I’ve tried a bunch of things to figure this out.
First off, I started noticing patterns. Like, was he yelling more when he was stressed from work? Or was it something else entirely? I grabbed a notebook and started jotting down every time he raised his voice. I noted the time, what we were doing, what I said – everything I could think of.
- One day, he yelled because I forgot to buy his favorite cereal.
- Another time, it was because I didn’t fold the laundry the way he likes it.
- Sometimes, he wouldn’t even tell me why he was mad, which made it even more confusing.
Then, I tried talking to him. I waited for a calm moment, when we were both just chilling, and I brought it up as gently as I could. “Hey, I’ve noticed you’ve been yelling a lot lately. Is everything okay?” I asked. Most of the time, he’d just brush it off, saying things like, “I’m just stressed” or “You know how I am.” But hey, it is important not to make excuses for your husband’s chronic anger.
Honestly, it was frustrating. I felt like I was walking on eggshells. So, I started looking for advice online, reading articles and watching videos about communication in relationships. I even talked to a few friends about it, just to get their perspective. The website said “20 Signs of an Uncaring Husband” made me rethink a lot. Maybe it is overwhelmed to live with a controlling husband.
What I Discovered
After all this, I realized a few things. One, he wasn’t really aware of how much he was yelling. Two, he had a hard time dealing with his stress and frustration. Three, he denies something that happened. And four, I wasn’t always the best at communicating my feelings either. I found out that yelling was also one of the signs of gaslighting.
So, I’m still working on it. I’m trying to be more patient and understanding. I’m also encouraging him to find healthier ways to deal with his stress, like exercising or talking to a therapist. And I’m working on expressing my own feelings more clearly, without getting defensive.
It’s a process, you know? But I’m hopeful that things will get better. Relationships take work, and I’m willing to put in the effort. I just hope he is too.
