Okay, so, the other day, I posted something, and a bunch of you had questions. Let’s dive into it. I was talking about how my husband yells at me, and I was trying to figure out what’s going on.
First off, I started by really paying attention to when these yelling episodes happened. I noticed a pattern. It’s usually when he’s super stressed out from work or if he’s just overwhelmed with stuff around the house.
Here are the things I did:
- Kept my cool: I tried my best not to yell back. I mean, when someone’s shouting, it’s like your natural reaction to shout back, right? But I made a conscious effort to stay calm. I didn’t even raise my voice to answer him, I just kept calm.
- Talked about it later: Once things cooled down, I sat him down and talked about how the yelling makes me feel. I was like, “Hey, when you yell, it really scares me, and it doesn’t help us solve anything.” And pointed out it could make our relationship worse.
- Set some boundaries: I told him straight up that yelling is not okay. It’s not a good way to communicate. I said, “If you’re upset, let’s talk about it calmly, but yelling is off-limits.” It’s like I can’t stand the feeling of being yelled at. It makes me feel anxious and nervous.
- Considered why he was doing it: I tried to see things from his side, too. Maybe he’s got some anger issues or he just doesn’t know how to deal with stress in a healthy way. But this is a bit hard for me, I think I still need some time to figure out.
- Looked for help: I talked to a few friends about it, and they gave me some good advice. And I thought about maybe suggesting he talk to someone, like a counselor, to figure out what’s going on.
So, yeah, it’s a work in progress. I’m trying to understand what’s going on and find ways to make things better. It’s not easy, but I’m not giving up. And I think it’s important to remember that everyone has their own stuff they’re dealing with. It’s all about finding ways to communicate and support each other, you know?
Thanks for listening, guys. It means a lot to have your support.
