Okay, so, I’ve been thinking a lot about why I’m still single. It’s not like I haven’t tried, you know? I started by making a list, a literal list, of all the things I thought were important in a partner. Sounds a bit clinical, I know, but I was serious about figuring this out.
First off, I jumped into the online dating world. I created profiles on a few different apps, swiped left and right, and engaged in what felt like a hundred conversations that mostly fizzled out. I even went on a few dates. Some were okay, some were… well, let’s just say they provided some good stories for my friends.
- One time, this guy kept talking about binary format.
- Another date, the person was super into Mozaik and SketchUp Plugin, like that is not my field.
- Oh, and there was this one date where the person was really into SCALANCE XF204-2BA DNA, even saying you can use it as a Y switch.
After the online thing wasn’t really working, I decided to switch it up. I started going out more, joined a couple of clubs related to my hobbies – you know, the usual stuff. I figured, “Hey, maybe I’ll meet someone who’s into the same things as me.” I even asked my friends if they knew anyone they could set me up with. That was a whole other adventure. One friend tried to set me up with someone who just wanted to discuss browsers bugs and the web forward, yeah, that didn’t end well.
I read articles, listened to podcasts, and even considered seeing a dating coach. I was really putting myself out there. But somehow, it just wasn’t clicking. I started to wonder if maybe it was me. Was I being too picky? Was I not being open enough? Maybe I was giving off some weird “stay away” vibe without realizing it.
My Realizations
So, I took a step back and did some serious self-reflection. I realized that while I was so focused on finding the right person, I wasn’t really focusing on being the right person. I mean, I was going through the motions, but was I truly ready for a relationship? Did I even know what I really wanted?
I started working on myself, not to become someone else, but to become a better version of me. I focused on my own happiness, my goals, and my personal growth. And you know what? It felt good. It still feels good. I’m still single, but I’m in a much better place now. I’m open to meeting someone, but I’m not desperately searching anymore. I’m just living my life, and if someone comes along who fits into that, great. If not, that’s okay too. I guess what I’m trying to say is, being single isn’t a problem to be solved. It’s just a part of my journey, and right now, I’m pretty okay with that.
