Okay, so I’ve been messing around with this idea of “let them wonder about you,” right? And I gotta say, it’s been a bit of a trip. Here’s how I went about it.
First, I stopped oversharing. Like, seriously. No more posting every single thought or activity on social media. I used to be all about documenting everything, every coffee, every workout, every random thought that popped into my head. I cut that way back.
My Little Experiment
- Step 1: The Social Media Diet. I didn’t go completely dark, but I became way more selective. Instead of five posts a day, maybe one. And instead of “Just had the best avocado toast!” it was more like… nothing. Or maybe just a picture with no caption. Let people guess what I’m up to.
- Step 2: Vaguebooking (but not really). Okay, I didn’t actually vaguebook, because that’s annoying. But I did start sharing things that were interesting, but not necessarily personal. Like, a cool article I read, or a photo of a sunset, but without the usual “Feeling blessed!” caption.
- Step 3: The IRL Shift. This was the harder part. In conversations, I tried to be a little less forthcoming. Not secretive, just… less immediately revealing. Instead of giving a full rundown of my weekend, I’d say something like, “Oh, it was pretty chill, had some fun.” And then I’d ask them about their weekend.
- Step 4:Focus shift.In previous coversations,I always talked a lot,however,from now on,I tried to listen first,and focus more on them,then,I would be the mysterious one.
It’s been… interesting. I noticed people actually asking me more questions. Like, they were genuinely curious, instead of just passively scrolling through my feed. It felt like I was having more real conversations, because people were actually engaging, trying to figure me out a little.
The biggest thing? I realized I didn’t need to constantly broadcast my life to feel validated. It was kind of freeing, actually. Like I had this little secret world, and only the people who really cared enough to ask got a peek inside.
It’s an ongoing experiment, for sure. But so far, I’m digging this whole “let them wonder” thing. It’s not about being fake or manipulative, it’s about creating a little space, a little mystery. And honestly, it’s kind of fun.
