So yesterday I was scrolling through Reddit when this question popped up: “Where can virgins find legit first-time advice without getting scammed?” Got me thinking, because honestly? Most stuff out there is either cringey porn talk or useless clinical jargon.
The Awful Google Rabbit Hole
First I googled “virgin first time tips” like a dumbass. Big mistake. Top results were all sketchy pill ads disguised as articles. One site had 47 pop-ups before I could read a single sentence! Closed that tab so fast.
Then I tried Facebook groups. Joined three “sex education” communities. First post I see? Some dude selling “virginity packages” with herbal supplements. Like bruh. Reported that nonsense immediately.
The Obvious (But Useless) Places
- School pamphlets: Dug up my old health class handout. All it said was “use protection” with stick figures. Zero actual advice.
- YouTube influencers: Watched this popular “sex coach” who spent 20 minutes promoting her $300 webinar. Pass.
- Medical sites: WebMD just listed STDs like a scary menu. Not helpful when you’re nervous about basics.
Where The Real Advice Actually Lives
Finally remembered that one therapist friend from college. Texted her at midnight like “HELP.” She told me to check these two places:
- Reddit’s r/sex FAQ: Actual humans sharing real screwups. One thread had 200+ comments about first-time disasters (lube accidents, awkward positions). Felt way less alone.
- Public health nonprofits: Found a .org site with PDF guides written by doctors who don’t sell anything. Plain English stuff like “how to talk about condoms without dying of embarrassment.”
Biggest Shockers Experts Told Me
- Most “first time pain” comes from tension, not biology. One gynecologist said: “If it hurts, STOP. It shouldn’t feel like stabbing.”
- Lube isn’t optional – even if you think you’re “ready.” Everyone forgets this. Everyone.
- 85% of first times involve zero orgasms for either person. Normal as hell.
Final takeaway? Real advice hides where nobody’s making money off you. Free resources by actual professionals beat influencer nonsense every damn time.
