Okay, so the other day I was thinking about this whole “altercation” thing. Like, when is it actually okay to get into a shouting match with someone? I mean, we’re always told to be the bigger person, walk away, blah blah blah. But sometimes, you just gotta stand your ground, right?
So, I started by just jotting down some ideas. I grabbed a piece of paper and wrote down all the situations I could think of where maybe, just maybe, an altercation might be justified.
- Self-defense, obviously.
- Protecting someone else who’s being threatened.
- Standing up to, like, serious injustice.
Then I decided to dig a little deeper. I went online and looked at some articles, that’s was no use, Then I think back to those time that’s I had been through.
My Real-Life Musing
That’s when I feel that,I though back to all those time that I had been through, remember the situation that I’d been though, write them down.
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I remember that I had a roommate, and she always eat my food without asking, that was the situation that I can’t stand with, but that was not a big deal at all.
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I witnessed a situation where a cashier was openly rude and disrespectful to an elderly *’s also not my business.
After all my brainstorming and searching, I realized something pretty simple. It’s almost never about the actual thing you’re arguing about. I conclude that It’s about feeling respected, feeling safe, and feeling like your boundaries matter. And sometimes, a calm conversation just won’t cut it.
So, while I’m still a big believer in trying to de-escalate situations, I think I’m a little less quick to judge someone for getting into an altercation. Sometimes, it’s the only way to make your voice heard. Just gotta pick your battles wisely, I guess.
