Okay, so I’ve been thinking a lot about what really gets a woman going, sexually. It’s not always as straightforward as guys sometimes think. It’s more complicated than poping a pill. I’ve been doing some, uh, “field research,” and I wanted to share what I’ve experienced and discovered.
The Slow Burn
First off, I started noticing that the whole “quickie” thing isn’t always the best approach. I mean, sure, sometimes it’s fun, but more often than not, it felt like something was missing. So, I started experimenting with taking things slower.
I began paying more attention to the build-up. It isn’t just about physical touch. I’d really focus on what she was saying, what made her laugh, what made her eyes light up. Little things, you know? Like, remembering she hates it when I leave the toilet seat up, or surprising her with her favorite coffee in the morning. These were small things that didn’t have much work.
Then, there’s the whole atmosphere thing. I started to be more mindful of the setting. Dim lights, some chill music… I even lit a candle a few times. I noticed that created a very relaxed environment.
Getting Touchy-Feely (But Not There Yet)
Next, I really started to pay attention to the non-sexual touch. I’m talking about holding hands, cuddling on the couch, a lingering hug. I found that these things actually made a huge difference. It’s like building up a connection, a feeling of closeness, before even thinking about getting down to business. I can just hug her without thinking sex.
- Started with a back rub. No expectations, just trying to help her relax after a long day.
- Tried running my fingers through her hair while we watched a movie. She seemed to really like that.
- Even just holding her hand while we walked the dog felt… different. More intimate.
The Actual Deed
When it finally came to the actual sex part, I tried to, well, listen. Not just with my ears, but with my body. I started paying attention to her reactions, her breathing, her body language.
It was the key to figuring out what she liked and what she didn’t. I think I have discovered many spots.
I also started being more vocal. Not in a cheesy, porn-star way, but just… telling her what I liked, what felt good. I found that when I communicated my enjoy, she’d like it. And asking her what she wanted. Turns out, communication is pretty damn important. That’s what I have known so far.
The Aftermath
Finally, I realized that what happens after sex is just as important as what happens before and during. I used to just roll over and fall asleep. Now, I try to cuddle, talk, and just enjoy the closeness. I think it made a big difference in how connected we felt, not just physically, but emotionally too.
So, that’s my little experiment so far. It’s definitely a work in progress, and I’m still learning. But I think I’m on to something. It’s about way more than just the physical act. It’s about connection, intimacy, and really paying attention to your partner. Who knew, right? I’d say that what I have discovered can be applied to any of my partners.
