Okay, so, today I want to talk about this “Dom” thing in bed. I’ve been trying to be the dominant one, you know, the one calling the shots. It started a few weeks ago when my partner and I were talking about spicing things up.
First off, I started by doing some reading. Found a bunch of articles about being a Dom, setting boundaries, and all that stuff. It sounded interesting, so I decided to give it a shot. I mean, it’s all about making things exciting, right?
The first thing I did was talk to my partner. We sat down and had a real conversation about what we’re into. I asked her about her fantasies, what she’s comfortable with, and what’s a no-go. Turns out, she was curious about the whole Dom/sub thing too. So, we decided to explore it together.
Then, we started slow. No need to rush into anything, you know? We picked a “safe word” – something silly, like “pineapple” – just in case things got too intense. I started with some light role-play, taking charge, giving instructions, that sort of thing.
- I told her what to wear.
- I told her where to stand.
- I told her how to touch me.
It felt a bit awkward at first, not gonna lie. But we kept at it, and it started to feel more natural. I tried some different positions too. One of them was like, we both get on our hands and knees, and I’m behind her, directing the action. It’s called the “Helicopter” or something. It was fun, and we both enjoyed it.
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After a few times practicing, we got more comfortable. I started to incorporate some restraints, just some silk scarves at first. Nothing too crazy. We talked about it beforehand, of course. Communication is key, you know? You gotta make sure everyone’s on the same page.
It’s been a few weeks now, and honestly, it’s been pretty great. We’re both having fun, exploring new things, and it’s definitely added some excitement to our sex life. I’m still learning, though. I’m trying to be more assertive, more in control, but also making sure she’s always comfortable and enjoying herself.
The main thing I’ve learned is that being a Dom isn’t just about being bossy. It’s about trust, communication, and making sure your partner feels safe and respected. It’s a journey, and we’re both enjoying the ride.
So yeah, that’s my experience with this
