Okay, so, me and my partner, we decided to do this “couple survey” thing. I saw some stuff online about it, and I thought, why not? It might be fun, or at least interesting. So we went for it.
First off, I just looked up some example surveys online. You know, just to get an idea of what kind of questions people ask. There were a ton of different ones, some were pretty basic, and others were like, super deep. We just wanted something in the middle, not too cheesy, but not like, therapy-level stuff either. I grabbed a few questions that I felt were right, and ignored those that were just too much.
Here’s what we did:
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We picked a time when we were both chill. No point in doing this if one of us is stressed or in a hurry, right? We decided on a lazy Sunday afternoon. Coffee, snacks, the whole deal.
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We made our own list of questions. We used some of the ones I found online as a base, and I asked my partner which of these he liked, and removed those he thought were silly. We added a few of our own, too. Stuff like, “What’s your favorite memory of us?” and “What’s something you think we could do better as a couple?”
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We took turns asking and answering. I found this was way better than just filling out a form or something. It made it more like a conversation, you know? We really listened to each other’s answers, and sometimes we’d talk about them a bit more. This way we really got to the bottom of things.
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We promised to be totally honest. This was the most important part. We agreed that there was no point in doing this unless we were going to be completely open with each other, even if it was a little uncomfortable. It helped that we kept the tone really light, and no judging.
What happened?
Honestly, it was pretty great. I mean, we know each other really well, but it was still cool to hear some of his answers. Like, I didn’t know that one of his favorite memories was that time we got lost on that road trip. And he didn’t realize how much I appreciate it when he just randomly does the dishes. We realized we had taken for granted some of the things each of us did and how much we appreciated each other. It was eye-opening to say the least.
We also talked about some things we could work on. Nothing major, just small stuff. Like, he said he sometimes feels like I don’t listen to him when he’s talking about his hobbies, and I said I sometimes wish he’d be more spontaneous. It wasn’t awkward or anything, it was just… a good conversation, we came out of it feeling closer than before.
So, yeah, that’s my couple survey story. It was a simple thing, but it was actually pretty meaningful. It’s easy to just go through the motions in a relationship, you know? This was a nice way to stop and really think about us. I’d say, if you’re thinking about doing it, go for it. Just be honest, be open, and don’t take it too seriously. It’s supposed to be a good thing, not a test or something.
Oh, and one more thing. We decided to do this again, maybe like once a year or something. It’s like a little check-in, you know? Just to make sure we’re still on the same page and all that. Alright, that’s it. Hope this was helpful or at least a little bit interesting. If you give it a go let me know how it turns out for you!
