Okay, so let me tell you about this whole “bid for connection” thing I’ve been diving into. I started noticing it in my daily life, like, everywhere, after I came across this concept. It’s wild how often it pops up, you know?
So, here’s what happened. I started paying more attention to how people around me try to connect. Like, the other day, I was at the coffee shop, and this guy kept looking over at his friend, trying to show him something on his phone. His friend didn’t seem to notice. Then I thought he might be lonely, so he was doing this to connect with his friend.
- First, I noticed it with my colleagues.
- One of them would always ask about my weekend.
- At first, I thought it was just polite small talk.
- But then, I realized she was actually trying to connect, to get to know me better.
Then, I started seeing it at home, too. Like, my partner would tell me about his day, even the boring parts. And I realized, he wasn’t just rambling; he was looking for me to engage, to show I care. It is important, because before, I just listened not very carefully. I tried to change it.
So, I decided to do this little experiment. I would consciously respond to these “bids,” as they’re called. It was kinda awkward at first, not gonna lie.
Here are the results of my experiment
- When my friend showed me a funny video, I didn’t just nod.
- I laughed, I asked questions, I showed I was interested.
- When my partner talked about his work, I really listened.
- I asked follow-up questions, I offered my thoughts.
And guess what? It actually made a difference! It felt like we were understanding each other better, you know? Like, we were on the same page. I felt our relationship was getting closer.
It’s not about grand gestures, it is about the small things. Acknowledging someone’s story, laughing at their joke, offering a kind word – it all adds up. It shows you are there, you are listening, you care. This made me understand why I felt bad before, I always ignored others’ needs. Now, I know the importance of connection.
So, yeah, that’s my little journey into the world of “bids for connection.” It is simple, I tried to connect with others, and paid attention to others’ emotions. It’s been eye-opening, and honestly, it’s made my relationships feel a whole lot richer. Give it a try, you might be surprised at how much it changes things for the better.
