Getting Good At Going Down
Okay, so someone asked me about, well, the whole ‘art of cunnilingus’ thing. Honestly, calling it an ‘art’ sounds a bit fancy. For me, it was more like figuring stuff out, trial and error, you know? Not like I went to school for it.
It really started with just wanting my partner to have a good time. Sounds simple, but that’s the core of it. In the beginning, I probably wasn’t great. Maybe enthusiastic, but maybe clueless too. Like just doing what I thought was right, or what I saw in some movie ages ago, which, let’s be real, is usually garbage advice.
The biggest thing I had to learn was to actually pay attention. Seriously. Stop thinking about yourself or trying too hard to impress and just watch and listen. It’s not about some secret technique.
- I started noticing little things – a gasp, a twitch, the way she’d shift her hips. That’s feedback right there.
- I asked. Yeah, actually used my words. “Does this feel good?” “More like this?” “Softer? Harder?” Awkward at first? Maybe a little. But way better than guessing wrong.
- I tried varying things. Speed, pressure, focusing on different spots. Not randomly, but based on the reactions I was getting. If something worked, I’d stick with it for a bit. If it didn’t seem to be doing much, I’d gently change it up.
- I realized that hands are important too! Like caressing her thighs, hips, stomach – it’s all connected, makes it more of a whole body thing, not just zeroing in on one spot like a robot.
Patience became key. Rushing things is usually a bad idea. Sometimes it takes time to build things up. It’s not always a race to the finish line. Just enjoying the moment, exploring, and making sure she’s comfortable and into it.
And honestly? It’s different every time. What worked yesterday might not be the magic ticket today. Moods change, feelings change. So, you gotta stay tuned in. It’s less an ‘art’ you master once and more like a dance you keep learning with your partner.
So, yeah. That’s my take. Less about some mythical technique and more about paying attention, communicating (even non-verbally by reading reactions), and genuinely wanting your partner to feel amazing. It takes practice, sure, but the main thing is being present and responsive. That’s the real stuff right there.
