Alright, so you wanna know about this whole “playful couple” thing. People talk about it like it’s some magic dust you sprinkle on your relationship and poof, everything’s perfect. Let me tell you, from where I’m standing, it’s not quite like that. It’s something we actually had to, you know, work on. Or maybe “figure out” is a better way to put it.
First off, we had to ditch the script
We both kinda realized early on that life throws enough serious stuff at you. If your home base is also all doom and gloom, or just…boring, then what’s the point? So, the first thing we did was consciously decide to let ourselves be a bit daft. No set schedule for “fun time” – that’s just weird. It was more about giving ourselves permission to be silly, even when things felt a bit much. Like, if one of us was stressed, the other might just pull a stupid face. Sounds dumb, right? But sometimes, that’s all it took to crack a smile.
Then we started collecting our own brand of weird
This part just sort of happened, but we leaned into it. Here’s what our “practice” ended up looking like, more or less:
- Inside Jokes Galore: Seriously, we have a whole language of them. Something ridiculous happens, or one of us says something funny? We’ll reference it for ages. It’s like our own private comedy show. Builds a bit of a bubble, you know? Just for us.
- Not Taking Ourselves Too Seriously: This was a big one. You gotta be able to laugh at yourself. And at each other, in a good way, of course. We sort of agreed, without saying it, that if one person was being a bit of a grump, the other had license to try and poke some fun into the situation. Gently, mind you. Most of the time.
- Tiny, Stupid Rituals: Forget fancy date nights every week. For us, it’s more like who can make the other one snort-laugh first thing in the morning. Or the ridiculous little dance we do when a particular old song comes on the radio. These things aren’t planned; they just… became things. They add up, surprisingly.
- Embracing the Goofball: We both have an inner goofball. We just decided to let them out to play together more often. Sometimes that means talking in silly voices, or making up ridiculous scenarios. It keeps things from getting too stale.
It’s not always easy, though
Look, there are days when one of us, or both, are just not feeling it. Tired, stressed, whatever. You can’t force “playful.” Sometimes you just gotta ride out the grumps. But the thing is, because we’ve built up this foundation of being a bit daft together, it’s easier to find our way back to it. It’s like a muscle, I guess. You gotta use it.
And honestly, all this silliness, it does something. It’s not just about having a laugh. It makes you feel more like a team. When you can be completely idiotic with someone and they don’t just tolerate it but join in, that’s a pretty solid connection, if you ask me. It helps you trust each other more, too, I think. Because you’re seeing the real, unfiltered person, goofy bits and all.
So yeah, that’s our take on it. Not a manual, just how we’ve muddled through and found a bit more fun in the everyday grind. It’s made the good times better and the tough times a little less heavy. And that, for us, is worth all the silly faces in the world.
