Alright, so you’re thinking about writing one of those super long love letters for your boyfriend. Good on ya! I’ve done this a few times, and let me tell you, it’s not always a walk in the park to get all those feelings down, but it’s so worth it when you see his face.
Getting My Head Straight First
First thing I always do is just… stop. I can’t just sit down and expect a novel to pour out. I gotta get in the mood, you know? So, I usually grab a cup of tea, maybe put on some quiet music, something that makes me feel a bit soft and sentimental. Then I just let my mind wander over to him. What’s he like? What do I really, really love about him? I don’t even write anything down at this stage, just thinking and feeling.
The Brain Dump – Getting It All Out
Okay, once I’m feeling a bit gooey, that’s when I grab a notebook. And I mean a physical notebook and a pen. Feels different, more personal than typing, for this kind of thing. I just start scribbling. No order, no fancy words, just whatever pops into my head. Things like:
- Little things he does that make me smile.
- Big moments we’ve shared.
- Stuff I admire about him, like his patience or how he’s so kind to his mom.
- How he’s changed my life, even in small ways.
- Funny memories, the sillier the better sometimes!
- My hopes for us, what I dream about for our future.
Seriously, it’s a mess at this point. Just a jumble of words and phrases. But it’s a start. And that’s the most important part. Sometimes I’ll fill a whole page, sometimes just half, depends on the day.
Trying to Make Sense of the Mess
Next up, I look at my brainstormed list and try to find some kind of… flow. I’m not aiming for a perfect essay, but I want it to make sense, not just be random thoughts strung together. Sometimes I’ll group things. Like, all the “things I love about your personality” go together. Or I might think about it like a story – how we met, how things grew, where we are now, and where I hope we’re going.
This is usually when I actually start writing the letter itself. I’ll pick a starting point. Maybe a fond memory, or just straight up telling him why I decided to write this massive letter. I try not to overthink the opening. Just get something down.
Fleshing It Out – This is Where it Gets LONG
Once I have a basic structure, or at least a starting point, I go back to my notes and start expanding. This is where the “long” part of “long love letter” really happens. For every point I jotted down, I ask myself: why?
So, instead of just writing “I love your smile,” I’ll write something like, “I love your smile, especially that little crinkle you get by your eyes when you’re genuinely happy. It makes me feel all warm inside, like everything’s okay with the world.” See? Details! Lots of details. I try to describe how things feel, not just what happened.
I also try to include specific examples. If I say he’s supportive, I’ll think of a time he really showed up for me and write about that. It makes it so much more real. I just keep going, section by section, thought by thought. Sometimes I have to take breaks. If I’m stuck, I’ll walk away, make another cup of tea, and come back later with fresh eyes.
The Final Polish (Sort Of)
When I think I’ve poured out everything I can, I read it. Then I read it again, out loud this time. Sounds silly, but you catch all sorts of clunky sentences and repeated words when you hear them. I’m not aiming for Shakespeare here, I want it to sound like me talking. So I fix things that sound weird, but I don’t try to make it too formal. It’s a love letter, not a business report!
I check for any glaring spelling mistakes, but honestly, if a word or two is off, I don’t sweat it too much. It’s the heart behind it that counts, right? The main thing is that it feels genuine and full of love. And yeah, that it’s actually long enough to feel like a proper outpouring!
And that’s pretty much my process. It takes time, for sure. Sometimes a few hours, sometimes I chip away at it over a couple of days. But seeing his reaction? Totally worth every single word.
