My Disaster First Attempt
Started like an idiot, just typed “online relationship coach” into Google last week. First page, shiny websites with perfect couples smiling. Felt hopeful, right? Big mistake. Signed up fast with this guy charging $200/hour because his bio said “transform your love life.” Total garbage. Our first session? He spent 45 minutes bragging about his yacht club membership. Didn’t ask a single question about my actual relationship struggles. Wasted cash, felt ripped off.
Getting Real & Making a Plan
Swore off coaches for a day. Got mad, then got practical. Grabbed my laptop, made a checklist this time:
- No more flashy websites – learned that lesson.
- Needs real proof – client videos? Actual names? Show me.
- Gotta talk FIRST – no more paying blind.
- Cheap ain’t good – but insane prices don’t equal results.
- What do they fix? – communication? Trust? Specifics matter.
Found coaching directories, ignored the promoted stuff. Scrolled way down.
The Interview Grind
Emailed 8 coaches fitting my list. Set up FREE intro calls – insisted on it. Felt like job interviews, honestly. Asked them raw questions:
“Ever dealt with someone scared of commitment? How?”
“Describe your style when someone shuts down emotionally.”
You could tell who recited scripts. One coach froze when I described my partner avoiding serious talks. Dodged the question! Dropped her fast. Another just kept saying “communication is key” like a broken record. Useless.
Stumbling On the Gold
Down to three options. All passed the gut check. Then found Coach K’s podcast episode hiding deep in a forum thread. Listened. Boom. Real talk, no fluff. Discussed messy breakups and rebuilding trust like it was normal laundry. Her vibe? Practical, slightly sarcastic, zero yacht talk. Exactly my speed.
Checked her actual client feedback screenshots – typos and all. Messaged a past client whose situation mirrored mine. Guy messaged back, warned it was rough at first but legit worth it. Signed up.
The 5 Things That Actually Worked
Total mess to finally finding Coach K. So, scrap the hype. Here’s the real deal:
- Screw the sales pitch. Demand a proper conversation FOR FREE. Grill them.
- Listen for specifics. If they give fluffy answers about fixing love? Hang up.
- Dig deep for proof. Websites lie. Podcasts, low-key videos, direct client chats are real.
- Price ≠ quality. But suspiciously cheap often means no clue. Pay for expertise, not ego.
- Trust your damn gut. That feeling they’re talking at you? Or not getting it? Listen. Walk.
Took work, felt draining. But actually getting tools that click? Night and day. Stick to the process.
