Okay, so my partner and I decided to try out these “intimacy classes” we’d been hearing about. Honestly, I was a bit skeptical at first. I mean, can you really teach intimacy? But hey, we were both feeling like we needed a little something extra to spice things up, so we signed up.
The First Class: Awkward Introductions
The first class was, well, awkward. Picture this: a bunch of couples sitting in a circle, trying to make eye contact and share their “relationship goals.” We mumbled through some stuff about wanting to “connect more” and “communicate better.” It felt a bit forced, you know?
The instructor, a lady with way too much energy, then led us through some breathing exercises. We had to sit super close to our partners and breathe in sync. It was kinda weird, but I have to admit, it did force us to focus on each other. We even giggled a bit, which helped break the tension.
Getting Physical (But Not Like That…Yet)
Then came the “physical” part. Not that kind of physical, at least not yet. We started with simple stuff, like holding hands and looking into each other’s eyes. Sounds easy, right? But try holding your partner’s gaze for five minutes straight without talking. It’s surprisingly intense.
Next, we practiced mirroring each other’s movements. My partner would lift an arm, and I’d have to copy it. It was kind of like a slow-motion dance, and it felt surprisingly intimate, even without any actual touching.
The Homework Assignment: Eye Gazing
Our “homework” for the week was to practice eye gazing for 10 minutes every day. We tried it, we really did. The first few times, we mostly ended up laughing. It felt so awkward! But after a few days, something shifted. We actually started to see each other, you know? Like, really see past the everyday routines and stresses.
Subsequent Classes: More Exercises, More Connection
Over the next few weeks, the classes continued with more exercises. Some were focused on communication, like learning to really listen to each other without interrupting. Others were more physical, like learning to give each other sensual massages (finally, some action!).
- We learned to touch without expectation.
- We communicated more openly and vulnerable.
- We practiced asking for our need.
The Verdict: Worth It?
So, were the intimacy classes worth it? Honestly, yeah. It wasn’t a magic cure-all, and we still have our moments of disconnect. But it definitely helped us to be more mindful of each other, to communicate better, and to rediscover some of that spark we’d been missing. Would I recommend it? If you’re feeling like your relationship could use a little boost, it’s definitely worth a try. Just be prepared for some initial awkwardness, and maybe a few giggles along the way.
