Why is my husband yelling? I tell you, this ain’t right. A good man, he shouldn’t be shoutin’ at his woman all the time. Makes a body feel small, you know?
First off, gotta figure out why he’s always hollerin’. Maybe he’s tired, maybe work’s got him all wound up. Men, they don’t always know how to talk proper, so they yell instead. It’s like a rooster crowin’ – loud and annoying, but maybe he just wants to be heard. But still, ain’t no excuse for makin’ a woman feel scared or bad.
- Stayin’ Calm: Don’t yell back, that just makes it worse. Like addin’ fuel to a fire. You gotta be the cool water, not the hot flame. Tell him straight, “I don’t like this yellin’. Talk to me like a human, not a hollerin’ fool.” Gotta set some rules, you see. Like, no yellin’ in the house, or when the kids are around. If he keeps at it, and you feel unsafe, just walk away. Go to another room, or even outside. He can yell at the walls for all you care.
- Findin’ Help: Talk to your friends, your family. Sometimes just tellin’ someone helps. They might have some good ideas, or just a shoulder to cry on. And there’s places, you know, places for women when things get bad at home. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help. And maybe, just maybe, he needs to talk to someone too. A counselor, or somethin’. Someone who can help him learn to talk without yellin’.
This yellin’, it ain’t normal. Sure, folks argue, that’s life. But yellin’ all the time? That’s poison. It makes you scared, makes you hate him a little bit. It breaks somethin’ inside. You can’t build a good home, a good life, on yellin’ and screamin’.
And listen, if he starts gettin’ rough, if he starts pushin’ or hittin’, that’s a whole ‘nother story. That ain’t just yellin’, that’s dangerous. You gotta get out, you hear? Go somewhere safe, and don’t look back.
So, you gotta talk to him. Find a quiet time, when he’s not all worked up. And tell him how you feel. Tell him the yellin’ hurts, that it scares you, that it’s bad for your family. Maybe he don’t even realize how bad it is. Some men, they’re just clueless, you know?
Now, if you want to stop this yellin’ before it starts, gotta pay attention. See those signs, when he starts gettin’ all tense and fidgety? That’s when you gotta step in. Maybe say, “Hey, let’s take a break. Let’s sit down and talk this out.” Or maybe just distract him. Change the subject, offer him some coffee. Anything to break that tension before it explodes.
Marriage ain’t easy, I tell you. It’s hard work. But it shouldn’t be a battlefield. It shouldn’t be full of yellin’ and fear. It should be a place of love, a place of peace. And if he can’t give you that, well, maybe you gotta think long and hard about what you’re gonna do. A woman deserves to be treated with respect, not with a loud mouth and a shoutin’ voice.
Remember, you ain’t alone. Lots of women go through this. Don’t you be ashamed to ask for help or to stand up for yourself. You’re worth more than a bunch of yelling.
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