So, I wanted to share something I started doing recently. It’s kinda personal, but it’s helped me a lot, so maybe it helps someone else too. Life gets messy, you know? Sometimes you feel like you’re juggling way too much, or just plain lonely, even in a crowd.

I got to a point where I felt pretty overwhelmed. Just… tired. And I realized I wasn’t really seeing the good stuff, the support that was actually around me. It wasn’t always big, loud help. Sometimes it was subtle. So, I decided I needed to actually make an effort to see it. It wasn’t some grand plan, just a small thing I started trying.
Basically, I started taking a few minutes each day, usually when things quieted down, or sometimes right when I felt that wave of ‘ugh’ hitting me. I’d just stop what I was doing. Seriously, just stop. And I’d consciously think back through the day, or the last few hours.
I ask myself, okay, what went right? Who helped? What little thing happened that made things easier or nicer? It could be anything, really:
- Someone holding a door when my hands were full.
- A friend just texting to check in, nothing major.
- My partner making coffee without me asking.
- Even just my old car starting without any fuss on a cold morning.
- Sometimes, it’s just remembering I managed to solve a tricky problem myself. That counts too, right? Like my own brain being there for me.
It sounds super simple, maybe even a bit silly. But doing this, like, actually doing it consistently, started changing things. I began to notice a pattern. There was always something. Always someone, or some small event, or some inner strength that showed up. It wasn’t always the same person or the same way, but the support, in some form, was consistently there.
It didn’t magically fix all my problems, obviously. But it made me feel less alone. It made me feel grateful. It’s like a quiet, internal “thank you” to the universe, or to the people around me, or even to myself. It’s a reminder that even when things feel rough, support often shows up, maybe not with trumpets and fanfare, but it’s there. Always. And just recognizing that, taking a moment to see it… well, it makes a difference. It really does.
