Okay, so I’ve been going back and forth on this for a while now: should I reach out to my ex? It’s been a rollercoaster of emotions, and I finally decided to just go through with it and see what happens. I started by thinking long and hard about why I wanted to reach out. Was it because I missed them? Was it for closure? Or did I just want to see how they were doing?
My mind kept playing tricks on me, making me think the past was better than it actually was. I had to really dig deep and be honest with myself. I realized I did miss them, but not in the way I thought. It wasn’t about getting back together.
First, I went for a long walk to clear my head. Then, I sat down and wrote a list of all the reasons why I wanted to reach out and another list of why I shouldn’t. It was tough. Seeing it all written down made things a bit clearer, but also more confusing. After a few days, I decided to sleep on it, literally. I figured if I still felt the same way after a few nights, it was worth considering.
- Day 1: Felt super anxious. Kept checking my phone, even though I hadn’t even messaged them yet.
- Day 2: Tried distracting myself with work and hobbies. It worked, kind of. But the thought was always in the back of my mind.
- Day 3: Talked to a close friend about it. They gave me some solid advice: “Just be true to yourself and don’t expect anything.”
So, I finally crafted a message. Nothing fancy, just a simple “Hey, how have you been?” I stared at the send button for what felt like an eternity. Then I thought, “What’s the worst that could happen?” and I hit send.
I tried not to obsess over it, but I kept checking my phone every few minutes. A few hours later, they replied! It was a short and friendly message. We chatted a bit, just catching up. It felt… normal. Not awkward or weird. It was actually pretty nice.
The Outcome
We didn’t dive into deep conversations or rehash the past. It was just a simple, casual chat. And you know what? It felt good. It gave me a sense of peace, knowing we could be civil and friendly. I realized that reaching out wasn’t about rekindling an old flame, but about acknowledging that we shared a part of our lives together.
I’m not saying everyone should reach out to their ex, but for me, it was the right thing to do. It helped me move forward and close that chapter on a positive note. It wasn’t about getting back together or even being best friends. But it was rewarding in its own way. It’s not always about a big, dramatic outcome. Sometimes, it’s just about finding a little bit of peace and moving on.
