Okay, here’s my take on the whole “are you still a virgin if you have oral” thing, based on my own, uh, experiences and how I see it. Buckle up, it’s gonna be a ride.
So, it all started back in college. Fresh out of high school, hormones raging, and trying to figure out life, the universe, and everything. I met this girl, Sarah. She was cool, funny, and, let’s be honest, way out of my league. We started hanging out, going to parties, the usual college stuff.
One night, after a particularly heavy party, we ended up back at her dorm. We were both pretty drunk, and things started getting heated. We were making out, clothes were coming off, and then she stopped. She asked me if I was a virgin. I mumbled something about “technically, yeah,” because, well, I was.
Then she said, “Okay, how about we just do oral? You cool with that?” My brain was fried, but I managed to nod. Honestly, I didn’t really know what I was getting into. I’d heard stories, seen stuff in movies, but never actually experienced it myself.
Let me tell you, it was intense. Like, fireworks-going-off-in-your-head intense. It was a completely new sensation, and I was definitely enjoying it. We fooled around for a while, and then eventually crashed, both exhausted and a little bit confused.
The next day, things were a little awkward. We didn’t really talk about what happened, but we both knew things had changed. I kept thinking about whether I was still a virgin. Did that “count” as losing it? I didn’t know who to ask. My friends were clueless, and I wasn’t about to ask my mom.
- I started googling it (obviously).
- Read a bunch of articles and forum posts.
- Basically, the internet was just as confused as I was.
Some people said “yes,” because virginity is all about penetration. Others said “no,” because it’s about the experience and the emotional connection. Some people said it was a gray area. Honestly, it didn’t really help.
Here’s what I eventually realized: It doesn’t really matter what other people think. Virginity is a social construct. It’s not like there’s a magical virginity fairy that comes and takes your V-card after you do something specific. It’s about how you feel and what you define it as.
For me, that experience with Sarah was a big deal. It was my first sexual encounter, and it was definitely a turning point in my life. Did I “lose my virginity” that night? Maybe, maybe not. It depends on how you look at it. But it doesn’t really matter. What matters is that it was a meaningful experience for me.
So, are you still a virgin if you have oral? My answer is: It’s up to you. Think about what virginity means to you, and then decide for yourself. Don’t let anyone else tell you how to feel or what to think.
And that’s my story. Hope it helps someone out there who’s also wondering the same thing. Peace out.
