That First Time Trying It
Honestly, I used to think giving oral was just kinda… going down there and hoping for the best. My mouth got tired fast, my neck hurt like hell, and yeah, she wasn’t exactly giving me those OMG reactions.
So, figured I needed to actually learn this stuff instead of winging it. Went digging, tried a bunch of tips, messed up plenty, and finally got some real feedback.
What Actually Ended Up Working
- Warm-Up is EVERYTHING: Learned the hard way – jumping straight down south? Bad move. Started slow with kissing everywhere else first, getting her warmed up properly. Way more response.
- Listen to the Body: Stuck my tongue out like a lunatic at first thinking “faster harder”! Nope. Paid attention to her breathing, her body tensing up, little noises. Focused way more on light, teasing touches and the actual CLIT, not just flailing around.
- Fingers. Seriously. My hand was usually just kinda hanging out doing nothing. Terrible waste. Started using fingers gently inside while my mouth worked on the clit. Saw her eyes roll back – that was new.
- Stop Talking: Used to ask “Is this good?” every ten seconds. Drove her nuts. Switched to watching her reactions instead of talking. Kept my mouth busy.
- The Comfort Game: Neck cramps and a numb jaw killed the vibe fast. Got some pillows to prop myself up comfy. Total game-changer. Could actually focus without feeling like I needed a chiropractor afterwards.
Where I’m Still At With It
Still figuring it out, honestly. It ain’t like riding a bike. That time she sneezed while I was down there? Nearly died laughing. Awkward as hell.
Biggest takeaway for me? It’s not about my technique like some magic trick. It’s about paying freaking attention to her. Every time is different. Some days she loves super focused pressure, other days it’s all about those soft, slow circles. Gotta read the room, man. Stop thinking so much about doing it “right” and tune into what her body’s actually telling you. Takes practice and way less ego. Still working on that last part!
