Okay, so, I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how important it is to actually say nice things to your girlfriend. Like, it sounds obvious, right? But sometimes we get caught up in the day-to-day and forget to actually verbalize the good stuff. So, I decided to make a conscious effort to be more verbally appreciative of my girl.
The Experiment Begins
I started simple. No grand gestures, just little things. The first thing I did was, when she came downstairs in the morning, looking all cute and sleepy, instead of just grunting “morning,” I actually said, “You look really beautiful this morning.” I know, I know, groundbreaking, right? But it made her smile, a genuine, surprised smile. And that, my friends, was a win.
Then, throughout the week, I made a point of noticing things. And more importantly, saying things about those things I noticed.
- She made this amazing pasta dish for dinner. Instead of just stuffing my face (which I did, anyway), I made sure to tell her, “Babe, this is seriously delicious. You’re an amazing cook.”
- We were watching a movie, and she made this really insightful comment about the plot. I told her, “Wow, that’s a really smart observation. I didn’t even think of it that way.”
- She was stressing out about a work project, I noticed that, so I went and said, “Hey, I know you’re super stressed, but I just want you to know I think you’re incredibly capable and you’re going to crush it.”
The Little Things Add Up
It was nothing huge, not at first. It feels kinda awkward, even, at the start. I was actively looking for the correct words. But the more I did it, the easier it got. And the more I saw how much it meant to her. Those little comments, those genuine compliments, they made a difference.
I tried to use simple words, something like these:
- “I love your laugh, it is like sunshine in my day.”
- “I feel lucky every time I see you.”
- “I’m really grateful for you.”
- “You make me want to be a better person.”
- “It makes me so happy to see you happy.”
It wasn’t just about saying “I love you” more (although I did that too). It was about acknowledging the specific things I appreciate about her, her personality, her actions, her presence in my life.
It’s about really seeing her, and letting her know that I see her, and that I appreciate what I see.
The Results (So Far)
Honestly? Things have been…better. We’ve been connecting more. She seems happier, more relaxed. And so am I. It’s like, by consciously focusing on the positive, I’m actually creating more positivity in our relationship. We are now much closer.
It’s an ongoing thing, of course. It’s not like I’ve suddenly become the perfect boyfriend (far from it!). But it’s a step in the right direction. And it’s a reminder that sometimes, the simplest things, like a few kind words, can make all the difference.
