So, what’s my story with this “soft sex” term?
Alright, people keep throwing around this “soft sex” phrase. Lemme tell ya, my experience with it? Total accident. Wasn’t like I went looking for some new bedroom trick or whatever. Honestly, the whole thing was just… a misunderstanding that went on for way too long.
Here’s how it all got started, and it’s dumber than you think. I was actually trying to get my head around how creative teams talk – or don’t talk – to each other. You know, that whole dance of trying to give feedback without starting a war. Real exciting stuff, I know. I was digging through forums, reading articles, just trying to figure out how not to sound like a jerk when I thought an idea was terrible.
And then, bam. In some online group, someone uses “soft sex” to describe, like, gently pushing an idea on people. I swear, I did a double-take. “Am I in the right place?” I thought. Seemed completely nuts. Totally out of left field.
So that kicked off my “practice,” if you can even call it that.
- First off, I tried to just blow it off. “Probably some idiot trying to be edgy,” I figured. Moved on.
- But no, it pops up again! Different person, same weird, metaphorical use – something about “softly seducing” folks with your concepts. At this point, I’m just baffled. Are these people serious? Is this some new, cringey corporate buzzword I missed the memo on?
- My next move was pure detective work, ’cause asking felt too weird. I started watching how they used it. What were they really talking about under that ridiculous label?
- Turns out, they were fumbling to describe being subtle and persuasive. Making your points without being a bulldozer. The “sex” part? Just a really, really bad metaphor for “attraction” or “appeal” in a non-physical way. Honestly, who comes up with this stuff?
Eventually, I kinda got what these clowns were trying to say, despite the godawful terminology. My actual “practice” had nothing to do with “soft sex.” That term just became a mental note: “AVOID STUPID METAPHORS.” What I really started working on was just being a better communicator, plain and simple.
Like, I started trying to:
- Ask questions instead of barking orders.
- Actually listen to people before jumping in with my two cents.
- Find some common ground, even when we were miles apart.
- Just make my ideas clear and, you know, not gross by using dumb comparisons.
So, there you have it. My big “soft sex” adventure was mostly me trying to decode some seriously bizarre internet talk, which, by some miracle, led me back to basic communication skills. What a waste of time on the front end, though. Taught me to be super careful with words, and to call out dumb labels when I see ’em. Definitely not a “practice” I’d ever recommend by that name. Sheesh.
