Okay, so I decided to try and inject more positivity into my relationship. We’ve been bickering a bit lately, and I figured a conscious effort to be more positive might help. It wasn’t some grand, sweeping change, just little things here and there.
The Experiment Begins
I started by, well, just trying to notice the good stuff more. Sounds simple, right? It kind of is, but it also takes some effort. I’m usually quick to point out what’s bugging me, so I had to flip the script.
- Day 1: My partner made coffee. Normally, I wouldn’t even really register it, but today I made a point of saying, “Hey, thanks for making coffee! I really appreciate it.” It felt a little awkward at first, like I was laying it on thick, but they smiled, so that was good.
- Day 2: We were watching TV, and instead of complaining about the show (which I’m very good at), I tried to find something positive to say. “You know, the cinematography in this is actually pretty good,” I offered. It sparked a decent conversation, which was way better than my usual grumbling.
- Day 3: This was a tough one. We had a minor disagreement about something silly – who left the milk out, classic couple stuff. My instinct was to get defensive, but I took a deep breath and tried a different approach. “Okay, maybe we both forgot. Let’s just put it back now and move on,” I said. It defused the situation way faster than arguing would have.
- Day 4: Focused on offering a genuine compliment and active listening. My partner was talking about a work,and instead of zoning out, I truly listen and ask questions and offered encouragement.
- Day 5: We went for a walk and hold hands,I noticed the small and beauty of the nature,then expressed my happiness.
The Results (So Far)
It’s only been a few days, but I’ve already noticed a shift. It’s subtle, but it’s there. The air feels a little lighter, we’re laughing more, and those little annoyances don’t seem to escalate as quickly. I even caught my partner making an extra effort to be positive, too – they offered to do the dishes without me asking, which is a rare and beautiful thing!
It is a small step,but a good * key is to be aware of the words that I used and try to express myself in a more positive way, and remember to keep doing *’s a bit like exercise for my relationship and I will keep to do.
